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KatMeWow

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Hi,
I am NOT poly - not voluntarily anyway. My new husband and I live with his "aunt" who I see as his 1st wife and I although legal as the 2nd/sister wife. You can read about it under LIFE STORIES & BLOGS. There I have a post (Feeling Plain Stupid) telling my side of the story and poll asking the opinion of others.

We are an interracial couple. I am black, living in a new city, and working a new job. This is my way of venting. If you think you know who we are PLEASE keep our identities to yourself. Simply share your input with me here. Your discretion is greatly appreciated.

In general I am content. However, the idea of my husband's suspected incest/adultery is one that never escapes my mind, not even when he and I are in bed together. He has made me feel that my existence is of little consequence to his happiness and/or well-being. I am reduced to maid, cook, and on occasion sperm deposit which happens with many busy married couples during various seasons.

Family is a different story...understandable they've been around all his life. And both Aunt and mother-in-law may not have long upon the earth (so hubby tells me). So I am on my best behavior - trying not to upset anyone or rock the boat. They/family was urging us to have a child ASAP. Perhaps due to my age. Perhaps they know his attitude towards women better than i do.
Thanks
 
Welcome. I didn't realize in your other thread that you lived with her. Is it possible to move? I think most likely its simply a roommate situation. And shes the alpha female, not the first "wife". I think the healthiest thing for your marriage is to get your own home because as long as you are in her home she's in charge. She's use to taking care of your husband and until that physical distance is established I doubt any changes cn be made. Im the same way, in charge of my home and im bossy and wouldn't be welcoming to any other women in my home.
 
Greetings KatMeWow,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I read your blog entry and voted in the poll. I think you are in a rather strange situation, and I can't tell whether there's incest going on. Whatever you decide to do, I would proceed with caution.

I hope Polyamory.com is helpful for you in getting things sorted out, and even just venting if you need a listening ear. I'm glad you could join us.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Hi, welcome!

just doesn't sound healthy for you, my dear. Take care of you!

Xo
 
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