Considering open relationship..and very anxious Please help!!

[FallenAngelina]

He's afraid he'll let himself believe I can do it, get his hopes up, only to have me tell him it's not for me.

As Leetah and vinsanity have said, this possibility is present in every relationship. Everyone goes into a relationship with no guarantees, and things are never written in stone, not even for people who have been married for decades. People can always realize new things about themselves that create a mis-matched situation. I've found that the key to peace in a relationship is not extracting promises or declatations of commitment out of other people, but in finding my own source of general well being. Nobody can promise that they will happily be there forever and in a particular way for another, no matter what many marriage vows say. Security and stability come from within and there is no getting around that, much as we try to in our relationships. Entering a new relationship takes a lot of courage because anything can happen. The more you both can allow the other to be OK as is, the less you need the other to be this, that or whatever, the happier road you'll travel together.