Hey folks –
I wanted to take a minute to introduce myself to the forum. I've been married to my wife for 12 years, and over the past year or so we've opened things up. Not surprisingly, she's had more action than I have – well, actually I haven't gotten any yet. I have a couple of prospects but it hasn't quite come together yet. But it's been a great experience all the same. Challenging and frustrating at times, but still I have no desire to go back.
One of the main challenges for me is that I'm a very shy person by nature. This leads to a lot of challenges. For example, a few months back my wife and I went to a swinger's club. We had a great time, but...I was just too shy to approach any of the other women there. On a more day-to-day level, it can be tough knowing how to bring up the topic, or approach people who might be interested. I'm trying to work on this, though – my mantra has been "Be Bold!" I think I've made a lot of progress but it's an ongoing project.
Through it, I've found I have a desire to be more open about our marriage being open. I don't necessarily want to scream from the mountaintops about it, but I don't want it to be a secret, either. I'd like for both of us to reach the point where we're totally comfortable talking about it when the topic comes up. My wife is more reticent about sharing, which is kind of funny since she's far more sociable than me, and generally tells her friends everything.
That's part of why I'm here – I have a couple of folks I can talk to about this stuff, but I want more of that. I really like the idea of being able to talk openly about our open marriage, and the issues that come up as a result, with folks who have similar experiences. So, here I am!
I wanted to take a minute to introduce myself to the forum. I've been married to my wife for 12 years, and over the past year or so we've opened things up. Not surprisingly, she's had more action than I have – well, actually I haven't gotten any yet. I have a couple of prospects but it hasn't quite come together yet. But it's been a great experience all the same. Challenging and frustrating at times, but still I have no desire to go back.
One of the main challenges for me is that I'm a very shy person by nature. This leads to a lot of challenges. For example, a few months back my wife and I went to a swinger's club. We had a great time, but...I was just too shy to approach any of the other women there. On a more day-to-day level, it can be tough knowing how to bring up the topic, or approach people who might be interested. I'm trying to work on this, though – my mantra has been "Be Bold!" I think I've made a lot of progress but it's an ongoing project.
Through it, I've found I have a desire to be more open about our marriage being open. I don't necessarily want to scream from the mountaintops about it, but I don't want it to be a secret, either. I'd like for both of us to reach the point where we're totally comfortable talking about it when the topic comes up. My wife is more reticent about sharing, which is kind of funny since she's far more sociable than me, and generally tells her friends everything.
That's part of why I'm here – I have a couple of folks I can talk to about this stuff, but I want more of that. I really like the idea of being able to talk openly about our open marriage, and the issues that come up as a result, with folks who have similar experiences. So, here I am!
