Dutch guy introduction

[Martinus]

Hi I,m Martin from Holland.
I'm a bisexual man Married for 12years to a heterosexual girl.
We have 3 daughters
And since Sunday we are in a relationship with a bisexual friend.
We know this friend for over 14Years.
Me and this friend are sexualy attracted to each other for more than 4 years.
We kissed and cuddled with each other but not more than that.
I' didn't want to cheat on my wife. She knew about my feelings. But I wanted to stay monogamous
My wife really liked our friend and cuddled with him a lot.

She fell in love (don,t know exactly when).
Our friend has been in love with her but I also don't know when exactly
And last Sunday she dared to give in to it.
We were cuddling and we had sex. It felt super natural like it has to be this way.
I felt great and we now agreed that we are a couple of three person's.
We have sex together and feel a lot of love.

I still indentify my self as monogamous.
Because it doesn't feel like a change.
It feels natural and I really enjoy them loving and they enjoy me loving and this confuses me.
I feel like a teen in love.
And it feels great.

A confused Dutchman but a very very happy one

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Martin,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I read both of your other threads, How to cope with loneliness, and, When to tell the kids, and, I responded briefly to each one. Basically, tell the kids soon, and, carry around a token of the person you miss. These are just some tidbits of ideas for you, I didn't have anything extensive, but I figured even something little may help.

Basically, it sounds like poly is still very new for you, you do not know quite what to think about it yet, but you feel very good. Give it some time, and explore Polyamory.com so you can learn more about poly. There's so much to learn. You are probably experiencing some NRE right now, that is normal. Any questions you have, go ahead and ask! There's no such thing as a dumb question.

I hope you enjoy your time on our forum, and in poly in general.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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