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[trallart]

So cooped up. I hesitated so much before posting on here. Glad I did. I look forward to learning and sharing. Maybe we will make it to this lifestyle sometime in the future.
We have been strictly mono our whole marriage. I have had friends that I have gotten close to and think that I really did have feelings for them akin to those I have for my spouse. But you can not talk about these things in a monogamous focused religious social network. Those feelings are sinful and unnatural. I have moved myself away from those influences and have been trying to reason through things for myself. I am not looking to force my spouse into something, but I try to convince her to think for herself and to not be ashamed of her feelings, not just regarding sexuality, but in all things. We are working on it.
I do not want to be without my spouse. We have so much history and I care so much for her. I so much want to have female friends without fear of hurting her. I have felt like I am doing something wrong when I talk to a girl without my spouse being privy to the conversation. I do not know if it is her fault, but sometimes she will inquire in a suggestive way.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings trallart,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you have been fighting some conservative conditioning along the way towards considering poly. No need to be in a hurry, take some time and learn more about what poly is, and how it works.

Glad you could join us.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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