Tonight I am making dinner for myself, my wife (Lulu), and her partner (Ray), a tasty Korean ramen dish. All three of us have expressed our nervousness. I am excited as well, because I finally get to meet the woman that my wife finds attractive and stimulating. Lulu feels that we will get along, and from what she has told me about Ray, I will like her, as well.
Ray had asked if I would be comfortable seeing them touch and snuggle during the evening. I don’t think I will have a problem with it. If I do, I told Lulu that I would politely excuse myself and go journal about my feelings instead of getting outwardly upset. That has really been working well for me when it comes to any negative feelings. Lulu has made it a serious point to check in with me regularly about my feelings.
They spent a night and day together last week and when she got home she gave me her undivided attention. I was able to share my feelings and push through the uncomfortable feelings, instead of succumbing to them. I felt so amazing and close to her when she got home and it was worth all the uncomfortable parts of the night.
I start with a therapist I found here on one of Galagirl’s links (I think it was Galagirl’s) on November 2. I am so looking forward to getting some guidance in this aspect of my life. I have a lot of other baggage to unpack and heal from. I know I need to take care of that stuff before I can have another partner. I don’t want to bring all of my unresolved issues into someone else’s life.
Ray had asked if I would be comfortable seeing them touch and snuggle during the evening. I don’t think I will have a problem with it. If I do, I told Lulu that I would politely excuse myself and go journal about my feelings instead of getting outwardly upset. That has really been working well for me when it comes to any negative feelings. Lulu has made it a serious point to check in with me regularly about my feelings.
They spent a night and day together last week and when she got home she gave me her undivided attention. I was able to share my feelings and push through the uncomfortable feelings, instead of succumbing to them. I felt so amazing and close to her when she got home and it was worth all the uncomfortable parts of the night.
I start with a therapist I found here on one of Galagirl’s links (I think it was Galagirl’s) on November 2. I am so looking forward to getting some guidance in this aspect of my life. I have a lot of other baggage to unpack and heal from. I know I need to take care of that stuff before I can have another partner. I don’t want to bring all of my unresolved issues into someone else’s life.
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