First time sex with another couple...what to do next?

[Polyrocks]

My wife and I just had sex (without intercourse) with another couple for the first time. It felt amazing and it was very intimate. Now the next day we are going to meet them again for a bbq and just to hang out.
My wife initially started a relationship with the other woman and now I made out with that woman and my wife with her husband in the same room all together.
Does anybody have any tips on how to move on? How to strengthen the relationships but also to make it less awkward and set rules?
Any tips are appreciated.

 

[kdt26417]

Hello Polyrocks,

At this moment, the only rule I would suggest is, be honest with each other. And don't go too fast either, don't rush anything, just let things develop naturally. It's wonderful that you had such a good experience with them with having sex with them, now don't let that turn into something bad by making things awkward. I am thinking you're like friends with them, or even close friends. There's nothing wrong with that, let it be that way.

A barbecue and just hanging out sounds great. If more than that happens great, if not that's okay too. Don't try to force anything, just be friendly toward them and the occasional arm around the shoulder is good too I think. Eventually you could have a talk with them about where you want all this to go, but at this moment I am thinking it is too soon for that. Just let things be light and affectionate.

And keep us updated as your situation evolves. This will give us opportunity to give you more/updated feedback and advice.

I am happy for you.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.

 

[lunabunny]

Well, yes, I think it all depends on how you four actually met, and if you're already close friends or know each other quite well. (Obviously your wife and the other woman do, as you say they've begun a "relationship" with each other.)

It may be a different story if you've only just met the couple quite recently, and haven't yet developed an easy rapport.

Either way, communication is the aim of the game. In my experience, sex of any description is way more fulfilling the better one knows the other person (or people) concerned.

Is it just swinging/group sex you're after here? How do you see this situation progressing? How do you WANT it to progress - is having occasional sex together enough, or do you want a relationship more like a poly quad? - and what do the other three want?

I agree with Kevin that you should keep it light-ish for the first few meetings and not rush things. IF all seems to be going well, you may wish to get into heavier discussion regarding the direction you want this to take. Good luck.