Frequency of contact?

[Macbeth]

This is a question that has been coming up for me, and I'd like to get some input from all you helpful people. I'm kind of collecting data. For those of you in a primary relationship (married, or long-term committed), what kind of time/frequency of time/proximity of time do you or your primary partner spend with your secondary?

That was confusing, so let me rephrase it. On a weekly basis, how often do you get together with your secondary partner, how long to do generally spend together, and how often does that time include sex, on average?

 

[redpepper]

I spend Tuesday nights at Mono's house, which we call my OH (Other Home). Quite often I will spend Friday or Saturday night there and sleep in; coming home at noon, usually. Sometimes Mono sleeps at our place on the pull-out couch, and I get up with him and the boy in the morning so we can all watch TV in bed. Usually he does that if we have been spending time with my husband at home the night before, or if he babysits. We also see each other several times a week after work as we both finish work at around 3. I go and get my boy from school at about 5.

It's all negotiated each week, except Tuesday night, which we have only changed once since January. We went away for a weekend once. We also spend time together at my house doing family stuff. Mono spends time with my boy sometimes, and with my husband sometimes, too. They are all good friends.

 

[Twinkle]

I think it comes down to what is acceptable to everyone concerned.