Fun Poly Research Test

Cookie said:
I couldn't see the numbers of people who had answered each of the number questions, like 'How many current partners'. Is anyone else having that problem?
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Yep. Glad that wasn't just me... I guess it just lists them top-down from most to least common?

Eponine said:
Also, I was happy to see 1/4 of the responses were from asexuals.
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It's just 4% now. I guess the aces just got there earlier than average. :D

Eponine said:
On a related note, I think aromantic people can be polyamorous, because I use the "multiple loving/intimate relationships" definition of poly and loving/intimate isn't necessarily romantic. This is probably not a popular view in the poly community though.
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Completely agreed (as you knew I would ;)).
 
Is there a way to view the results without taking the test, or if you took the test at an earlier iteration and want to see how it's progressed since then? I don't want to skew things by filling out the same results twice...:p
 
Maygen said:
So for you, love and romance are two separate entities. For others they are one in the same, or so closely entwined that they are not separate things.

So maybe be careful about using such dismissice language, such as calling it "bullshit"? Just because we use different words doesn't mean that we don't feel the same love :)
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Why should I be careful? I wasn't dismissing anyone else's interpretation. I did write, "To me, romance is..." To me. To me.

And what I meant by saying that "romance is smoke and mirrors, a fantasy, infatuation, bullshit..." was not to say that romance isn't real, but that it is basically all about the outer gestures and affectations we expect to go along with the feelings of love and affection. The set-up, the actions taken (ie., "to romance someone") that are engineered to demonstrate, prove, convince, or entice someone into falling in love or being reassured of love. We all have ideas of what a romantic dinner is, or a romantic vacation, romantic proposal, and so on - to be romantic is to have certain elements that would foster an environment whereby people "in love" are reassured about that love or people in a new relationship are swept up in euphoric feelings for each other.

A person can do a bunch of romantic things without actually feeling love for the person they are doing it for, and a person can love someone without making any of the expected or typical romantic gestures. Love and romance are definitely not the same thing.

After I wrote the above, I Googled around and found this: http://www.differencebetween.net/language/words-language/difference-between-love-and-romance/

Anyway, I cannot relate to the idea of "romantic attraction" or "romantic orientation." I can think in terms of physical attraction, sexual attraction, intellectual attraction, etc., but I am not attracted to most gestures of romance, so I guess I don't really have a romantic orientation.
 
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