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Gria2004

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Hi I have been here a few times because I have not told my friends or parents about this. Don't know if I could tell parents because they would never understand. Ok here's the story. I meet this guy online knowing that he was Polly. I was fine with that. We talked a little and my ex wanted to get back together. So he stepped away. That didn't work. So in the last few months we have been chating a lot phone and txting because they are a hour away and both of our schedules are crazy. They won't away be this crazy. We meet a very few times all of him and his wife. Everything is going well and I'm going to spend time with his wife soon and them. Today he call me his girl. He didnt really want to say that because he doesn't like labels but wants me to be with them. I am so happy. We are work to form a relationship and triad.

I am so happy with how everything is going and how this one might work out. But I have not really told anyone. When I'm happy dating someone or seeing were it goes I want to tell my friends my family. They noticed when I'm happy with someone. Not sure how to tell them. I have done Polly before but I think my friends thought it was just me dateing the guy having three someone. Also I never called the girlfriend my girlfriend just friend. But his wife wants me to be her girlfriend too. I'm ok with that but not sure what to say when people ask if I'm dating anyone? Or they noticed how happy I been? What do I tell my friends? Never had one that I could call my self girlfriend to both. Last one was more just seeing what was there and sexual. What about if I have function to go to or family event were I can bring someone? I want them to be apart of all my life.
 
It's way too soon to be worrying about what to do at holidays and events where you can bring someone. You only have met them a handful of times and don't know them very well at all yet. Give it time. Get to know them - who are they? Are they trustworthy? Honest? Responsible? Safe? Do not just jump into sex and a relationship with both of them just because they want you to. Have all of you have been tested for STDs and gotten good results, or results you can live with? If not, slow down. Just wait and see if it works out (it might or it might not!) before you should even think about telling people, bringing them to events with you, and being a big part of your life. That is a lo-o-ooong way off from where you are now!
 
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Just say that you're seeing some guy casually. Are you out as bi? If so you can also day you met a woman you like. Use first names only. Be vague when they ask too many questions that could result in a google search.

My GF's adult daughters never knew my last name or that I was married. I mrt a number of her friends too. You can hide the truth from anyone and reveal bits and pieces to people you can trust.
 
Hi Gria2004,

Glad to hear your relationship is going well so far. As for coming out to various people, usually simple is best. "Yes, I am seeing someone, I am seeing two people." Good enough. Then be willing to answer questions (within reason).

At least that's how I see it ...
Regards,
Kevin T.
 
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