FragsNRuins
New member
Hi everyone, I'm a newcomer to polyamory (both the relationship style and this forum). My wife is another new member to these boards and brought me here. I've really enjoyed the blogs and discussion threads so far, so I finally took the plunge and signed up!
I am a 30-year-old, cis hetflex man who is extremely happily married to the woman of his dreams. So imagine my surprise when I was struck out of the blue with an intense attraction to the woman that would quickly come to be my girlfriend!
Realizing I wanted a polyamorous relationship was a surprise to me. I had been physically attracted to others and had no shortage of good friends in the past, of course. I never sweated it, though, because I was happily monogamous. Unlike many other stories I've read, I've never struggled with infidelity or feeling poly-oriented and unable to enjoy monogamous relationships. But then my girlfriend entered my life and my relationship with my wife grew even stronger and closer. I can't picture going back to monogamy.
So as the subject of my thread indicates, and as I touched upon briefly above, I've been immersing myself in poly thought. Most of my reading here has been of other people's blogs, so I suspect that I will still mostly lurk. I plan on starting my own blog here with the hopes that 1) it will serve me as a great record of my own growth and thoughts, and 2) it will give others that feeling that they're not alone and that their own experiences are not singular nor entirely "outside the norm". Just reading other people's stories is sometimes a great comfort, even if their situations are wildly different than the one I'm in.
Anyway, I hope to have more to share in the coming days, and I'll link to my blog in this thread if and when I get it going.
I am a 30-year-old, cis hetflex man who is extremely happily married to the woman of his dreams. So imagine my surprise when I was struck out of the blue with an intense attraction to the woman that would quickly come to be my girlfriend!
Realizing I wanted a polyamorous relationship was a surprise to me. I had been physically attracted to others and had no shortage of good friends in the past, of course. I never sweated it, though, because I was happily monogamous. Unlike many other stories I've read, I've never struggled with infidelity or feeling poly-oriented and unable to enjoy monogamous relationships. But then my girlfriend entered my life and my relationship with my wife grew even stronger and closer. I can't picture going back to monogamy.
So as the subject of my thread indicates, and as I touched upon briefly above, I've been immersing myself in poly thought. Most of my reading here has been of other people's blogs, so I suspect that I will still mostly lurk. I plan on starting my own blog here with the hopes that 1) it will serve me as a great record of my own growth and thoughts, and 2) it will give others that feeling that they're not alone and that their own experiences are not singular nor entirely "outside the norm". Just reading other people's stories is sometimes a great comfort, even if their situations are wildly different than the one I'm in.
Anyway, I hope to have more to share in the coming days, and I'll link to my blog in this thread if and when I get it going.
