Hello, I am married, 40 years old, with two young-adult children. I have recently entered into a poly relationship with my wife and a long time female friend of ours.
When I met me wife, she told me she was bisexual but never completely acted on it until now, so that possibility was always there. When she told me that she had fallen in love with her best friend, it was shocking and a bit hurt, but I think that came from my own prejudices. After some thought, I told her that I thought we should try polyamory, as I know they love each other and I truthfully love them both myself. This made my wife very happy and she has showed it in many ways since the decision was made.
This is all of our first time trying something like this, so we're all just figuring things out. We want to let things evolve organically, but my wife and I have certainly done some reading.
I've already gotten some great advice here. I have come to realize that there are now four relationships that we have to keep healthy and I have gotten a lot of pointers on dealing with jealousy, which I have from time to time and which is really not their fault, but my own. I've also learned that my feelings over their NRE are normal, and about compersion, which I'm trying to get better at. Sorry I hit the relationship board before coming here... I was feeling a bit desperate when I first joined because of said jealousy.
I hope I can continue to get more of this great advice from you all. Any "beginners to poly" reads that you all think might be helpful to us?
Thanks, it's been great meeting you all!
When I met me wife, she told me she was bisexual but never completely acted on it until now, so that possibility was always there. When she told me that she had fallen in love with her best friend, it was shocking and a bit hurt, but I think that came from my own prejudices. After some thought, I told her that I thought we should try polyamory, as I know they love each other and I truthfully love them both myself. This made my wife very happy and she has showed it in many ways since the decision was made.
This is all of our first time trying something like this, so we're all just figuring things out. We want to let things evolve organically, but my wife and I have certainly done some reading.
I've already gotten some great advice here. I have come to realize that there are now four relationships that we have to keep healthy and I have gotten a lot of pointers on dealing with jealousy, which I have from time to time and which is really not their fault, but my own. I've also learned that my feelings over their NRE are normal, and about compersion, which I'm trying to get better at. Sorry I hit the relationship board before coming here... I was feeling a bit desperate when I first joined because of said jealousy.
I hope I can continue to get more of this great advice from you all. Any "beginners to poly" reads that you all think might be helpful to us?
Thanks, it's been great meeting you all!
