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Phoenix22

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Hey. My name is Lydia! I am married and have one child.
I am polyamorous, and he is monogamous. I am not currently dating, though I do plan to start actively soon. My husband is finally starting to come around and understand.
I know no other polyamorous person, so I really hope to make some great friends who can understand me and my lifestyle.
I have already come out as bi, but coming out as polyamorous might take a toll on my family. Mainly my husbands side. Id hate to keep my lifestyle a secret, but I feel like that may be the only choice I have.
All-in-all, Im gonna go snoop and look around. I hope I can make some awesome friendships here!
 
Hi Phoenix22, I'm married and poly, husband is mono, too. We have kids. So welcome to the club!

With my husband, acceptance has been an evolution, but to my great surprise, he has opened so much more than I imagined could have been possible. He is socially and politically conservative, which I mention because you never know how much perspectives and attitudes can change when love is involved. One thing that was helpful for me was to back off of the worrying (I tend to worry) and just have confidence that things were headed in a good direction, even when I had no "evidence" to back up my faith. And another thing that really helped was finding inspiring sources on the Web (as you are doing.) It really helps my heart to know that there are many people in this world who are making such satisfying and meaningful poly lives. I found that the more I relaxed about the evolution, the more he relaxed and things just grew in a positive direction from there.

Welcome!
 
Greetings Lydia,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I hope you'll make quite a few friends here. There's lots of opportunities, just check out our various threads and see which ones you want to post in. (You can also start your own threads of course.)

Don't worry about keeping the poly a secret; lots of polys have to do that (including me). We live in a world that's not ready to wrap its mind around poly. Heck the world still struggles to accept same-sex marriage.

Anyway, I'm glad you could join us.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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