Hello,
I'm a girl from southern California. I am currently in a very happy relationship with my high school sweetheart.
We started dating when we were 15 and broke up a few times throughout high school since we recognized that we were young and should experience other people, however we're best friends, share a sense of humor, and make each other happy so we always ended up back together.
We have been together for six years now and have our own apartment. We have talked about marriage and kids and both agree that excluding unforseeable circumstances we would very much like to spend the rest of our lives together. However, we decided it would be best to wait until I was finished with college and we were a bit more secure financially.
I was raised Catholic which has very strict rules about sexuality. Over the last few years I have come to accept that my views don't exactly follow those I was raised with and I have slowly come to accept that. Over the last couple of years I have come to accept that I like women as well as men (although I tend to prefer men and love my boyfriend, I do also find myself wanting to be with women). My boyfriend knows this and accepts this. Since we have been together since we were so young (and still are) we know that we want to be together but at the same time expand our relationship. We have mutually agreed to allow another woman into our relationship.
Unfortunately, thats where my certainty stops. I have no idea where I would even start looking, what I should even be looking for, what sorts of "rules" should be put into place beforehand, etc. Not to mention that I tend to be rather submissive and shy when it comes to relationship matters which means I don't feel comfortable just asking random people.
I found this forum and I guess I'm just looking for help and support. Where do I start? What do I do?
I'm a girl from southern California. I am currently in a very happy relationship with my high school sweetheart.
We started dating when we were 15 and broke up a few times throughout high school since we recognized that we were young and should experience other people, however we're best friends, share a sense of humor, and make each other happy so we always ended up back together.
We have been together for six years now and have our own apartment. We have talked about marriage and kids and both agree that excluding unforseeable circumstances we would very much like to spend the rest of our lives together. However, we decided it would be best to wait until I was finished with college and we were a bit more secure financially.
I was raised Catholic which has very strict rules about sexuality. Over the last few years I have come to accept that my views don't exactly follow those I was raised with and I have slowly come to accept that. Over the last couple of years I have come to accept that I like women as well as men (although I tend to prefer men and love my boyfriend, I do also find myself wanting to be with women). My boyfriend knows this and accepts this. Since we have been together since we were so young (and still are) we know that we want to be together but at the same time expand our relationship. We have mutually agreed to allow another woman into our relationship.
Unfortunately, thats where my certainty stops. I have no idea where I would even start looking, what I should even be looking for, what sorts of "rules" should be put into place beforehand, etc. Not to mention that I tend to be rather submissive and shy when it comes to relationship matters which means I don't feel comfortable just asking random people.
I found this forum and I guess I'm just looking for help and support. Where do I start? What do I do?
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