Hello, everyone!
So, here's what brought me to post after reading the forum for several hours.
We have been in a closed triad for about a year now, and I have found that it is not working for me.
Specifically, while I thought I would be able to be in a relationship with two people instead of just one, I have found that that arrangement is not compatible with my personality/cultural understanding/baggage/whatever you want to call it.
And I'm fine with that. It has been, I believe, a very healthy thing for me to experience, observe, and determine about myself. So, I'm more comfortable being monogamous. Awesome.
However, my husband is more comfortable being poly amorous, and would like to continue in the triad.
So, I'm wondering if there are others who have successfully shifted from a closed triad to a V. I am very willing to try, and am interested in tips, lessons learned, etc.
We're all men, have careers, no kids, live together. Husband and I have been together for 7 years, and our boyfriend joined us last year and is my best friend. So, I'd like to keep being married to my husband, keep my best friend, keep my husband and best friend's relationship intact and explain to my best friend that I love him and that the sex was GREAT, but I'd like to have a sexual relationship with only my husband (again, permitting the best friend and husband to continue their relationship as it has been).
In general, I think everyone will be fine with it. We all live together, get along great, and love each other. I'm interested in making sure I navigate the change in a way that honors all of that and doesn't mess up the great stuff we have; I've simply never had to explain this before, so I'm looking for advice/experience in doing it smoothly.
So, here's what brought me to post after reading the forum for several hours.
We have been in a closed triad for about a year now, and I have found that it is not working for me.
Specifically, while I thought I would be able to be in a relationship with two people instead of just one, I have found that that arrangement is not compatible with my personality/cultural understanding/baggage/whatever you want to call it.
And I'm fine with that. It has been, I believe, a very healthy thing for me to experience, observe, and determine about myself. So, I'm more comfortable being monogamous. Awesome.
However, my husband is more comfortable being poly amorous, and would like to continue in the triad.
So, I'm wondering if there are others who have successfully shifted from a closed triad to a V. I am very willing to try, and am interested in tips, lessons learned, etc.
We're all men, have careers, no kids, live together. Husband and I have been together for 7 years, and our boyfriend joined us last year and is my best friend. So, I'd like to keep being married to my husband, keep my best friend, keep my husband and best friend's relationship intact and explain to my best friend that I love him and that the sex was GREAT, but I'd like to have a sexual relationship with only my husband (again, permitting the best friend and husband to continue their relationship as it has been).
In general, I think everyone will be fine with it. We all live together, get along great, and love each other. I'm interested in making sure I navigate the change in a way that honors all of that and doesn't mess up the great stuff we have; I've simply never had to explain this before, so I'm looking for advice/experience in doing it smoothly.
