Hello there, I've been lurking and reading for awhile, so I thought I'd finally introduce myself. 
I'm 35, f, married and consider myself bisexual and poly. I am not new to the poly scene (a unicorn in the same relationship for about four years), but my husband, Allen is. We both have a secondary at this time (I know that term doesn't work for everyone and I fully understand why, but it works for us and our other partners at this time.) I have been with my boyfriend Lee for about a year and we recently have been coming out to our friends and family more about our situation, with mixed results (which I expected.) My husband has been with his girlfriend for about three months. I personally see some red flags there (she's married and is unfaithful to her husband, other trust/ communication issues) and I've made these concerns known but I also know this is new to him, and will need to let my husband make his own mistakes to learn as long as it doesn't interfere with our relationship (safer sex, communication etc.).
Anyway, I still think I have a lot to learn myself about poly relationships, and want to continue to learn, which is why I found my way here. I've already learned/ realized a bunch by just lurking... so hello there.
I'm 35, f, married and consider myself bisexual and poly. I am not new to the poly scene (a unicorn in the same relationship for about four years), but my husband, Allen is. We both have a secondary at this time (I know that term doesn't work for everyone and I fully understand why, but it works for us and our other partners at this time.) I have been with my boyfriend Lee for about a year and we recently have been coming out to our friends and family more about our situation, with mixed results (which I expected.) My husband has been with his girlfriend for about three months. I personally see some red flags there (she's married and is unfaithful to her husband, other trust/ communication issues) and I've made these concerns known but I also know this is new to him, and will need to let my husband make his own mistakes to learn as long as it doesn't interfere with our relationship (safer sex, communication etc.).
Anyway, I still think I have a lot to learn myself about poly relationships, and want to continue to learn, which is why I found my way here. I've already learned/ realized a bunch by just lurking... so hello there.
