Hello from the UK

[LoveYouTwo]

Hi all,

I am a part for a fairly freshly formed gay triad. Just a bit about us:

I'm A., 28yo, legally married to M., 27yo. We've been together for over ten years and got married in 2014. About a year ago we were joined by G., 23yo.

M. and myself never thought that loving more than one person is actually possible but quite often we physically fancy the same guys. We've had some threesomes in the past but we did it just for fun, no feelings involved. We were living pretty average married life and even looked to expand our family through adoption. We were very close to be approved as prospective adopters.

Last August we met G. on holiday in Mexico. At first, it was yet another example of us physically fancying the same guy. We knew nothing about him, we didn't even know if he was gay. We both agreed that he was hot though I'm not even sure how or why we started chatting to G. at the bar, but it quickly became apparent that we were very like-minded. We spent few days just laughing, drinking, talking for hours. Me and M. caught ourselves talking about G. when he wasn't with us, we started realising that we were falling in love with him. It was pretty hard to admit this each other. We didn't have enough courage to say it to G.

Last full day of our holiday we spent together on a beach. We got a bit tipsy and G. said to us, what we wanted to say to him, but were too scared. He said that he fell in love with both of us. We sat together on this empty beach, holding each others hands and crying. Crying with happiness and crying because we realised how utterly hopeless this situation was. We were so confused. There's three of us now and if that's not bad enough, we were probably not going to see each other ever again after today. M. and I were going back to the UK next morning and G. stays in Mexico where he lives.

We stayed in touch and let our relationship grow against all odds. G. came for six months to the UK (maximum period of time he could spend here on a tourist visa) and this was a real-life test to our relationship. It couldn't be better. We lived together, slept together, travelled together, went out together. And we don't get this "missing out" feeling, that many people talk about on this forum. We are equal partners and don't get jealous about each other at all. We have withdrawn from adoption approval process as it wouldn't be fair for all the parties involved if we continued.

We came out as triad to some friends and they were very supportive.

Currently we have two projects we work on:

1. Working out how to bring G. to the UK so he can live here with us indefinitely.
2. Building a massive bed, big enough for three blokes

I'm very happy that I found this forum. Sometimes it feels like we are the only triad in the world. It's good to find that there are other polies out there

 

[Shaya]

That's a beautiful and touching story. I remember your first post and hope you manage to get the advice you need.

There are many triads. Gay polyamory also pretty common. I suspect you will find many like minded individuals to help you all along.

Good luck,
Shaya.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings LoveYouTwo,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I hope G will be able to move to live with you and M soon. That's a hard situation for the three of you right now.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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