blackraven
New member
Hello everyone!
I've been a lurker on this forum for awhile now, and finally decided to start posting.
I'm a female in my mid 30's, mom of 3, butch lesbian, happily married to Rocket Scientist, an amazing woman, and a professional in an industry dominated by conservative middle aged white men. I also have a wonderful girlfriend, Pussy Galore. We follow a "primary/secondary" relationship model.
Lets see, where to begin... My wife and I were best friends and roommates in college before anything happened. We were both each others first woman, and still together 12 years later. We've been open our whole relationship (by open, I'm referring to the entire spectrum of non monogamy swinger and NSA on one end and poly and strings on the other). For a variety of reasons. To gain experience, handle long distance, she was engaged when we got together. I really like going out, meeting new people, etc. My wife has always been the one motivated towards poly, she approves of the open and honest focus, even though she's never found anyone else she particularly wanted to date, and I never had anyone serious or local. So it didn't affect day to day life that much.
After 5 years of long distance, we finally really lived together, made a baby, moved, bought a house, I changed jobs, and she became a stay at home mom, all in about six months. A few years later, I got pregnant with our sons. We then had 3 under 3, and life was just about surviving for awhile. Nothing and no one extra. Kids got older, life got easier, and I was ready to start going out again. This was when my story got much more interesting.
I wasn't looking for anything, but it found me, fast. According to my friends, I kind of always have this bright neon "open for business" sign that attracts people to me. Dated a few younger lesbians from the gay bar. And then I invited out dancing a mom friend, Pussy Galore, that I knew had a bit of a crush on me, but didn't really expect anything to happen. After getting to know each other a bit better as women and not just moms, I shared that we were open, and she shared that she and her husband were swingers.
Next time we went out, chemistry seriously flared up, and we physical. And then the drama, oh the drama!! Swinging and poly did not mix well at first. Her husband, the instructor, was very threatened by the strings, and I think her time with me prompted her to start wanting and expecting more from him. And there was some dishonesty. For a year, we were on and off and a lot of in love, "just friends" while I drove my wife and friends who knew crazy, and Pussy and instructor worked out their shtuff. This was when I discovered this forum and all the great advice on it, lime secondaries bill of rights.
Finally, after rocket scientist demanded a week timeout (simply for a break from the drama roller coaster), and instructor had found his own girlfriend, we finally got total real consent to be together from both spouses.
That was just over a year ago, and it's been lovely ever since. Much less drama. And now she is introducing me to her swinging world, and that's a fun adventure to be on.
So that's my story. Sorry it's long. Happy to be here, excited to engage in these discussions. Totally open to questions or comments.
I've been a lurker on this forum for awhile now, and finally decided to start posting.
I'm a female in my mid 30's, mom of 3, butch lesbian, happily married to Rocket Scientist, an amazing woman, and a professional in an industry dominated by conservative middle aged white men. I also have a wonderful girlfriend, Pussy Galore. We follow a "primary/secondary" relationship model.
Lets see, where to begin... My wife and I were best friends and roommates in college before anything happened. We were both each others first woman, and still together 12 years later. We've been open our whole relationship (by open, I'm referring to the entire spectrum of non monogamy swinger and NSA on one end and poly and strings on the other). For a variety of reasons. To gain experience, handle long distance, she was engaged when we got together. I really like going out, meeting new people, etc. My wife has always been the one motivated towards poly, she approves of the open and honest focus, even though she's never found anyone else she particularly wanted to date, and I never had anyone serious or local. So it didn't affect day to day life that much.
After 5 years of long distance, we finally really lived together, made a baby, moved, bought a house, I changed jobs, and she became a stay at home mom, all in about six months. A few years later, I got pregnant with our sons. We then had 3 under 3, and life was just about surviving for awhile. Nothing and no one extra. Kids got older, life got easier, and I was ready to start going out again. This was when my story got much more interesting.
I wasn't looking for anything, but it found me, fast. According to my friends, I kind of always have this bright neon "open for business" sign that attracts people to me. Dated a few younger lesbians from the gay bar. And then I invited out dancing a mom friend, Pussy Galore, that I knew had a bit of a crush on me, but didn't really expect anything to happen. After getting to know each other a bit better as women and not just moms, I shared that we were open, and she shared that she and her husband were swingers.
Next time we went out, chemistry seriously flared up, and we physical. And then the drama, oh the drama!! Swinging and poly did not mix well at first. Her husband, the instructor, was very threatened by the strings, and I think her time with me prompted her to start wanting and expecting more from him. And there was some dishonesty. For a year, we were on and off and a lot of in love, "just friends" while I drove my wife and friends who knew crazy, and Pussy and instructor worked out their shtuff. This was when I discovered this forum and all the great advice on it, lime secondaries bill of rights.
Finally, after rocket scientist demanded a week timeout (simply for a break from the drama roller coaster), and instructor had found his own girlfriend, we finally got total real consent to be together from both spouses.
That was just over a year ago, and it's been lovely ever since. Much less drama. And now she is introducing me to her swinging world, and that's a fun adventure to be on.
So that's my story. Sorry it's long. Happy to be here, excited to engage in these discussions. Totally open to questions or comments.
