Hello World

[honeynutcase]

Hi, I'm REALLY new to all of this, and I live in a relatively small city in central Wisconsin, so there's not a whole lot for a poly community around here (that I know of). So I'm really excited to have found this forum!

Anyhow, I'm a lesbian (with the exception of this one guy that I dated a few months ago). I've been in an on-again / off-again relationship with my girlfriend ("L" for now, I'll come up with better nicknames another time) for the last five years. Each of us cheated when we were together, and during our off-again times, she and I each dated other people. She was seeing someone ("M") earlier this summer before we started talking again, but broke it off to get back together with me. I later found out that she had ended the official relationship with M, but they never really stopped. L and I had talked about the "open relationship" concept vaguely in the past but never really considered it as a real option for us. I have been in love with two people at once in the past, so I understand the position she is in. When I found out about her ongoing relationship with M, I asked L if she wanted to be with both of us, if we could all be open and honest about it. So, the three of us did some soul-searching and decided that we would try a polyamorous relationship. I guess it is a "V" type relationship (sorry if I use the lingo incorrectly)...L is with me, and L is with M, but neither M nor I are with anyone else at this time. (But we'll see what happens in the future) I've met M a few times now and we get along really well, which helps. I guess I'm just looking for support and advice while we try to figure out how to make a poly relationship work for us.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings honeynutcase,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You used the word "V" accurately. A V is a three-person poly unit where one person (the "hinge") is involved with both other people, but those other two people are not involved with each other.

You seem to be doing the best you can given the circumstances. It's very generous of you to agree that L could continue seeing M even though they cheated on you. I hope they recognize that and are appreciative.

Have a look around here and see what calls to you. Let us know of any questions you might have.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!