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[Nikkiskaar23]

Hi! My name is nikki and i'm 33 years old. I'm married and have been with my husband coming up on 5 years. We have 2 young children 7 today and 7 months old. I joined this forum because i'm in a mono/poly relationship. I've been reading a lot trying to understand my husband and trying to help myself not be so hurt and jealous. I feel so much pain. So some advice I was given was to join a polyamory group to help me gain better perspective. I understand this is who he is i'm just not sure how I can continue and not take this so personally or feel so inadequate.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Nikki,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I read your other thread, and responded there briefly. Basically, what I wanted to say is that you need your husband to work with you, not make you be the only one doing all the work. Mono/poly relationships can be done, but it is not easy.

In case it will help, here are some jealousy resources.

• What If I Get Jealous?
• Jealousy, Envy, Insecurity, etc.
• Understanding jealousy
• How do you achieve compersion?
• Jealousy and Insecurity
• The Theory of Jealousy Management
• The Practice of Jealousy Management
• Kathy Labriola: "First Aid" for Jealousy
• Teal Swan: Jealousy and Envy
• Brené Brown: the Power of Vulnerability

Hopefully that helps.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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