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billypi

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I... don't know what to put here, really; I was reading through the forum and thought this might be a good place to ask questions, read stories, and maybe blog about my current situation.

My name is Billy. Not really, but it's a name I'm comfortable using online. It's the only lie I'll allow myself to tell here, so please grant me that nicety.

My wife and I recently split up, in part due to my being somewhat-badgered into accepting an open relationship (It was more of a "I want to screw other men, so if you want to keep screwing me, let me" relationship... needless to say, it did not last very long after that). Life, in a fit of irony, decided to have an amazing woman enter my life shortly afterwards, who makes me extremely happy... and happens to be poly and married.

So... as I said, I was thinking, maybe putting a post in the blogs forum and doing a stream-of-conciousness on what I'm thinking, what questions I have, my situation, etc. I'm sort of jumping in to polyculture (if that's even a term) with both feet, so... yeah, it's either going to go amazingly well or be a flaming train wreck, and I'm not too proud to ask the help of strangers for advice on keeping it form going up in a fireball.
 
Greetings Billy,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I think you should use two boards. First, use the Life stories and blogs board to tell your story and write out your stream of consciousness. Next, use the Poly Relationships Corner to get actual advice (and constructive criticism as necessary). You see, the blog board is kind of protected. The site guidelines ask people not to be critical of the person blogging, and to go easy on the advice. But in the relationships corner, people are free to speak their mind and will probably give you much more in the way of actual advice. In your blog, people will mostly just offer moral support.

You are smart to seek advice. Polyamory is a big huge field of studies, and there's a lot of ways you could end up in a flaming train wreck. Learn as much as you can about polyamory before delving too much deeper into this relationship with this married woman. It sounds hopeful that she's already poly, yet that's no guarantee that she knows a lot about poly. Even if she does, you should do your own research. Read lots of threads here, and ask lots of questions. I usually follow the intro board closely, so I will be here on this thread if you need to ping me.

I wish you the best of luck, and hope I can help in some small way.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
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