Just a quick note to introduce myself after signing up yesterday. My partner of 2+ years and I have an open relationship. I'm poly and pansexual, massively Aquarian, and my partner feels that he's really more mono and straight. We live together in a sleepy small town in West New Jersey. I travel up to 50% for work, he's gone back to school to finish his education.
We're both into BDSM and active in the scene as sadistic tops - we're actually sadomasochists but bottom exclusively for each other, which is one of my only rules as I get protective of him. I encourage him to explore the open dynamic and he's been doing great, even though it scares him at bit - he's tended to associate dating other people as what happens at the end of a dying relationship. He has fixed ideas about me being 'primary' and prioritizing me, which compensate for this some, but I fear will cause difficulties in his relationships. You can't always control a relationship to keep it mutually casual to fit the 'open relationship', no-complicated-emotions-involved mold.
We're both into BDSM and active in the scene as sadistic tops - we're actually sadomasochists but bottom exclusively for each other, which is one of my only rules as I get protective of him. I encourage him to explore the open dynamic and he's been doing great, even though it scares him at bit - he's tended to associate dating other people as what happens at the end of a dying relationship. He has fixed ideas about me being 'primary' and prioritizing me, which compensate for this some, but I fear will cause difficulties in his relationships. You can't always control a relationship to keep it mutually casual to fit the 'open relationship', no-complicated-emotions-involved mold.
