Hi from TN

MemphisMeli

MemphisMeli

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Hi everyone. I'm Meli. I am in my early 40's, a mother, wife, veteran, air guitar aficionado, and general goof ball.

I have been in poly relationships before (never seemed to go well, lessons learned though, right?).

Probably not coming back into the lifestyle for the best of reasons. Husband had an affair. I found that I wasn't angry that he had sex with someone else. I was livid that he hid it from me and lied to me. We are discussing opening our relationship so that we can each have the needs met that we aren't getting met after more than a decade of marriage. I have desired this from day 1, but he was opposed, so I relented. I have abided by his wishes for monogamy... apparently he didn't, so now I am openly asking for my needs and desires to be met.

Aaaaaanyway.... I hope this wasn't TMI, or too crazy. I look forward to getting to know everyone and learning more than I probably ever wanted to know about poly life lol
 
Greetings Meli,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Your situation is understandable; you're not the first person to say, "I don't care about the sex, I just wish he would have been honest about it!" It takes awhile to recover from an affair.

I want to mention a couple of websites: Opening Up and More than Two. They have a lot of good resources and reading material, including a book for each site. I highly recommend those two books, and their two websites.

And of course you can field any questions or concerns you have here. We'll try to help!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
Hi MemphisMeli,

I'm in Middle Tennessee. It's always nice to know of more poly people in our state which is essentially the belt-buckle of the bible belt. I've met lots of poly folk in Nashville.

I'm curious as to how your husband responded to your request. Care to elaborate on that?
 
Oddly, he seems to be open to it. I have explained to him that I have been in poly relationships in the past, etc. We are both doing our own research/soul searching, and will talk again very soon about the possibility.
 
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