Nonesuch-3-of-4
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I am a cis-male. I am situationally bisexual in that I the only males I am attracted to are the partners of my female partners. I was born in 1953 (ok boomer) and I am a retired technical writer.
Relationship status-
I am in a MFFM quad that has been together since late 2000. We are an open quad. With the help of an attorney, the four of us are as “married” as four people can currently be in the United States.
My experience-
After reading Stranger in a Strange Land and The Moon is a Harsh Mistress, my high-school girlfriend decided we were in an open relationship. That was in 1969. I tried to hang with the idea, but the concept triggered me because of the divorces both my parents had gone through since their mutual divorce when I was six. I was heavily involved with Christianity at the time too. I broke up with her. However, we are still close friends to this day. I’m kind of a long-term relationship guy.
In 1992 I started to explore polyamory. Coincidentally Dr. Deborah Anapol had just published Love Without Limits. I bought several copies so that my partners could read it. Dr. Anapol and I became acquaintances through meeting her at various events and through email. Her sudden death was a shock.
Issues of concern-
My issues are mostly related to the concept of family. One of my partners and I wrote a book that delves into the nuts and bolts of polyam-family life including legal workarounds for marriage-like rights, household management, family finance and business, children and other topics. I am not giving the name of our book because I don’t know if that would violate any rules on this site.
One of the biggest issues for polyamorous families is universal basic health care. The cost to employers of insuring multiple spouses is one of the arguments against polyam marriage. To be clear, I am neither opposed nor in favor of polyam marriage.
Relationship status-
I am in a MFFM quad that has been together since late 2000. We are an open quad. With the help of an attorney, the four of us are as “married” as four people can currently be in the United States.
My experience-
After reading Stranger in a Strange Land and The Moon is a Harsh Mistress, my high-school girlfriend decided we were in an open relationship. That was in 1969. I tried to hang with the idea, but the concept triggered me because of the divorces both my parents had gone through since their mutual divorce when I was six. I was heavily involved with Christianity at the time too. I broke up with her. However, we are still close friends to this day. I’m kind of a long-term relationship guy.
In 1992 I started to explore polyamory. Coincidentally Dr. Deborah Anapol had just published Love Without Limits. I bought several copies so that my partners could read it. Dr. Anapol and I became acquaintances through meeting her at various events and through email. Her sudden death was a shock.
Issues of concern-
My issues are mostly related to the concept of family. One of my partners and I wrote a book that delves into the nuts and bolts of polyam-family life including legal workarounds for marriage-like rights, household management, family finance and business, children and other topics. I am not giving the name of our book because I don’t know if that would violate any rules on this site.
One of the biggest issues for polyamorous families is universal basic health care. The cost to employers of insuring multiple spouses is one of the arguments against polyam marriage. To be clear, I am neither opposed nor in favor of polyam marriage.
