thinkmaker
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Greetings! So where to begin? I always feel super awkward introducing myself and may ramble on at times so feel free to skip the boring bits 
I found this site while googling questions I had about polyamory…shocker right? At this point I don’t know whether or not poly is a label I would apply to myself. I was familiar with the term and generally what it meant but never thought much about it. I’ve always been open-minded so what people do in their private/personal lives is no concern of mine, as long as no one is getting hurt…without their explicit permission
I’m in my early 30s, quiet, fairly attractive, successful, no children, and am completely irresponsible financially (no that’s not a typo…money flows through my fingers like water…it’s ridiculous). I have been in two long-term, monogamous relationships that both ended in marriage My first husband and I met our senior year in high school, I was 17. We were together for 10 years, married for 1. My second husband and I met 7 or 8 months after I left husband #1, 4 years later we got married and 9 months after that I moved out. I was 100% physically faithful to both (though I will confess to occasional fleeting intellectual/emotional dalliances), husband 2 was as well but husband 1 was not. I was always deeply hurt when I would learn of his affairs and it definitely affected our relationship and my ability to trust. What’s weird…or maybe it actually isn’t…is that I got it, I could understand his need to stray; what hurt was the deception and humiliation of feeling like a fool for not seeing what was going on. And I was angry because he put my health at risk without giving me the opportunity to make a decision…we were lucky but that was totally unacceptable to me.
And now here I am. I am currently “dating” two men, L and S. L told me after about a month or so of dating that he is polyamorous and asked if I was too. Honestly I hadn’t even considered the possibility until he asked…and then I started thinking about it and maybe I am…or maybe I’m just dating multiple people with the intention of eventually picking one? I don’t know. I really like both of them (maybe more than like L...we have incredible chemistry, I’ve only been seeing S for a few weeks but he totally lights me up too), I think I manage my time with them pretty well, and I’d prefer not to give either one up. S and I have not talked about the current dynamic…in fact we haven’t talked relationships past or present at all but I believe that will come up organically soon enough. What I do know is that I am in no way interested in pursuing a closed monogamous relationship right now...and maybe never.
So that’s me…well a little bit of me anyway
I found this site while googling questions I had about polyamory…shocker right? At this point I don’t know whether or not poly is a label I would apply to myself. I was familiar with the term and generally what it meant but never thought much about it. I’ve always been open-minded so what people do in their private/personal lives is no concern of mine, as long as no one is getting hurt…without their explicit permission
I’m in my early 30s, quiet, fairly attractive, successful, no children, and am completely irresponsible financially (no that’s not a typo…money flows through my fingers like water…it’s ridiculous). I have been in two long-term, monogamous relationships that both ended in marriage
My first husband and I met our senior year in high school, I was 17. We were together for 10 years, married for 1. My second husband and I met 7 or 8 months after I left husband #1, 4 years later we got married and 9 months after that I moved out. I was 100% physically faithful to both (though I will confess to occasional fleeting intellectual/emotional dalliances), husband 2 was as well but husband 1 was not. I was always deeply hurt when I would learn of his affairs and it definitely affected our relationship and my ability to trust. What’s weird…or maybe it actually isn’t…is that I got it, I could understand his need to stray; what hurt was the deception and humiliation of feeling like a fool for not seeing what was going on. And I was angry because he put my health at risk without giving me the opportunity to make a decision…we were lucky but that was totally unacceptable to me.And now here I am. I am currently “dating” two men, L and S. L told me after about a month or so of dating that he is polyamorous and asked if I was too. Honestly I hadn’t even considered the possibility until he asked…and then I started thinking about it and maybe I am…or maybe I’m just dating multiple people with the intention of eventually picking one? I don’t know. I really like both of them (maybe more than like L...we have incredible chemistry, I’ve only been seeing S for a few weeks but he totally lights me up too), I think I manage my time with them pretty well, and I’d prefer not to give either one up. S and I have not talked about the current dynamic…in fact we haven’t talked relationships past or present at all but I believe that will come up organically soon enough. What I do know is that I am in no way interested in pursuing a closed monogamous relationship right now...and maybe never.
So that’s me…well a little bit of me anyway
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