So my bf and I have been "together" for almost two months. We intended to be FWB only since he has an open relationship with a girl from home. However, before I knew it, we were together all the time. We spend most nights with each other, we have both decided we don't want to sleep alone. He left for a trip for a class and I am taking care of his most valuable things and watching his place for him.
My husband is actually the one that started calling him my boyfriend. I just denied it was anything more than FWB. Then we had a party a week ago, and he referred to himself in front of my friends as my boyfriend. I didn't know what to think. He isn't in touch with his emotions and gets uncomfortable discussing things like this sometimes. He will do it, it just has to be the right place and time in order for him to not try to distract you away from an uncomfortable subject.
I still didn't pay any mind to it, even after he said he was my bf. Then my husband met him for the first time this weekend and commented on how we look at each other and how he looks at me. I didn't put much weight on that thinking he was reading into it. Then after the party a few of my friends commented on how he stayed near me, how he looked at me etc and asked what was going on. People who have been around us that don't know our situation are commenting on me needing to be "careful, because I think that he is falling for you".
We are a great match. I am not in love with him, but I have a lot of feelings and we have so much fun together. I feel like we are on the same wave length all the time, even if we are just sitting quietly next to one another studying.
Here is the thing: It is obvious that this is more than a FWB situation. That is why I am even on this website atm (that and thanks to this I realized I have been poly all my life). I need to make sure we are all on the same page about what is going on here, but don't know how to bring it up. We have a weekend planned (just the 3 of us) when I pick him up tomorrow. I am even introducing him to more of my friends (just without details atm). After the weekend, I feel we need to have a discussion about what is going on between us.
Do I even need to have this talk? Am I trying to push things to places they weren't meant to go? How do I even start this conversation?
I feel like he has been poking around to see how I feel from time to time, just a side comment here or there. Maybe I am reading into things, but everyone noticing how he looks at me made me think we may need to discuss this further.
Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated. I have been fretting about it all week and still don't know where to start.
My husband is actually the one that started calling him my boyfriend. I just denied it was anything more than FWB. Then we had a party a week ago, and he referred to himself in front of my friends as my boyfriend. I didn't know what to think. He isn't in touch with his emotions and gets uncomfortable discussing things like this sometimes. He will do it, it just has to be the right place and time in order for him to not try to distract you away from an uncomfortable subject.
I still didn't pay any mind to it, even after he said he was my bf. Then my husband met him for the first time this weekend and commented on how we look at each other and how he looks at me. I didn't put much weight on that thinking he was reading into it. Then after the party a few of my friends commented on how he stayed near me, how he looked at me etc and asked what was going on. People who have been around us that don't know our situation are commenting on me needing to be "careful, because I think that he is falling for you".
We are a great match. I am not in love with him, but I have a lot of feelings and we have so much fun together. I feel like we are on the same wave length all the time, even if we are just sitting quietly next to one another studying.
Here is the thing: It is obvious that this is more than a FWB situation. That is why I am even on this website atm (that and thanks to this I realized I have been poly all my life). I need to make sure we are all on the same page about what is going on here, but don't know how to bring it up. We have a weekend planned (just the 3 of us) when I pick him up tomorrow. I am even introducing him to more of my friends (just without details atm). After the weekend, I feel we need to have a discussion about what is going on between us.
Do I even need to have this talk? Am I trying to push things to places they weren't meant to go? How do I even start this conversation?
I feel like he has been poking around to see how I feel from time to time, just a side comment here or there. Maybe I am reading into things, but everyone noticing how he looks at me made me think we may need to discuss this further.
Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated. I have been fretting about it all week and still don't know where to start.
