I am so proud of the two brilliant girls I love and I wanted to shout it from the rooftops 
S and me got together last summer and although we were both dating others at the time it was still the first experience of polyamory for each of us. I fell very hard for S and it was an amazing intense love. However I didn't realise how much we would both have to learn about understanding and communicating emotions and needs.
I met someone else I liked but S wasn't ready for it, so I tried my hardest to build trust in our relationship. Whenever I did I was told that I was only doing so because I wanted to get with this other girl, as opposed to just wanting a solid bond with S. I turned to here for advice (Loving Radiance, Kevin, GalaGirl - I owe you three so much!!) but there was also a lot of negative comments thrown at S and she focused on those and got a negative view of this forum.
We went through our relationship with me getting frustrated at the lack of equality and her telling me that I had disregarded her need for time to be taken at the start of our relationship. I was told I pushed this other new girl on her too soon, a point I would argue by saying I repeatedly backed off from this other girl and did put her needs first... S and I split in June 2014.
In July this year I then met M and wow. My mind was blown away once again. Friends have told me I haven't shut up about how wonderful she is all summer... We became an official item last Tuesday and I've been bouncing off the walls ever since
Now M is also new to poly, but has been curious for a while... I'm keen not to make the same mistakes again so wanted to move towards being actively polyamorous slowly with LOTS of talking.
Then on Wednesday S came over saying she can see now that I was trying to put her first in the early part of our relationship. She was really apologetic for not seeing it before now. Plus she's been really impressed with how much I've learned and she's demonstrating this huge amount of compersion towards M. I'm just really happy that she's realised now.
This weekend S then got some bad news about her granddads health and turned to me really upset... I've spent the weekend comforting her. She's been really grateful and says that she can see I love her completely and unconditionally. I am so proud of her.
Furthermore M has seen how much I still have feelings for S and she's said she's happy to discuss it. There is a lot of talking that needs to be done between all three of us and I want to go slow so I don't make the same mistakes as last summer... But I do just feel on top of the world right now; I have two beautiful, intelligent, wonderful women in my life - I love them both for very different reasons and in very different ways but I do love then both completely they can see that now and are handling it so well.
Words cannot explain how happy and proud I am.
S and me got together last summer and although we were both dating others at the time it was still the first experience of polyamory for each of us. I fell very hard for S and it was an amazing intense love. However I didn't realise how much we would both have to learn about understanding and communicating emotions and needs.
I met someone else I liked but S wasn't ready for it, so I tried my hardest to build trust in our relationship. Whenever I did I was told that I was only doing so because I wanted to get with this other girl, as opposed to just wanting a solid bond with S. I turned to here for advice (Loving Radiance, Kevin, GalaGirl - I owe you three so much!!) but there was also a lot of negative comments thrown at S and she focused on those and got a negative view of this forum.
We went through our relationship with me getting frustrated at the lack of equality and her telling me that I had disregarded her need for time to be taken at the start of our relationship. I was told I pushed this other new girl on her too soon, a point I would argue by saying I repeatedly backed off from this other girl and did put her needs first... S and I split in June 2014.
In July this year I then met M and wow. My mind was blown away once again. Friends have told me I haven't shut up about how wonderful she is all summer... We became an official item last Tuesday and I've been bouncing off the walls ever since
Now M is also new to poly, but has been curious for a while... I'm keen not to make the same mistakes again so wanted to move towards being actively polyamorous slowly with LOTS of talking.
Then on Wednesday S came over saying she can see now that I was trying to put her first in the early part of our relationship. She was really apologetic for not seeing it before now. Plus she's been really impressed with how much I've learned and she's demonstrating this huge amount of compersion towards M. I'm just really happy that she's realised now.
This weekend S then got some bad news about her granddads health and turned to me really upset... I've spent the weekend comforting her. She's been really grateful and says that she can see I love her completely and unconditionally. I am so proud of her.
Furthermore M has seen how much I still have feelings for S and she's said she's happy to discuss it. There is a lot of talking that needs to be done between all three of us and I want to go slow so I don't make the same mistakes as last summer... But I do just feel on top of the world right now; I have two beautiful, intelligent, wonderful women in my life - I love them both for very different reasons and in very different ways but I do love then both completely
they can see that now and are handling it so well.Words cannot explain how happy and proud I am.