I thought I was all Alone...

[DownUnder]

Can I start by saying I'm so glad something like this exists, I thought I was all alone in this... And reading these posts have helped me immensely only just joined so here is my introduction.

I'm a 34yr old gay male who is happily in a relationship and been for the past 2yrs with my partner, who is 6yrs younger (age is only a number I was born and raised into a strong christian family, the eldest of 4 brothers and 2 sisters, I attended church every Sunday and did all the good things as expected of me. Coming out was a nightmare!! (I'll leave that story for another post) but thanks to my partner I made it through.

12 months ago we decided to open our relationship to include other guys, we firstly only played together so we had threesomes and all that came with that, now we also play alone as long as we communicate and tell each where we will be.

About a month ago my partner met a guy online, things have become rather intense between them, and my partner and I talked about the idea of having a 3rd, which I support. I Didn't even know that this type of relationship existed or if it was "allowed" coming from my Christian background, but I'm open to it and I also love to see my partner happy, so I guess we're in a V , as he loves both of us guys.

Anyway as it's still new I'm scared and got all these emotions of him with another man, but at the same time I'm happy and excited for him and what this means to us. Sounds weird, but I'm new to this and need to know what others did and how you dealt with this.

Well that's my introduction, thanks for reading. (Trying to keep it short and simple)

 

[Nadya]

Hello and welcome to the forum!

Happy for you to have found this forum There are some folks here from strict religious backgrounds, me included.

There can be a lot of struggles in opening up a relationship and the open relationship turning to a polyship, glad you have found the support of this forum! Feel free to post any questions and concerns you might have, as well as browse and read what has been posted before. I remember a few threads about gay poly relationships - it pays off to use the forum search.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings DownUnder,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You're definitely not alone. There's a lot of polys out there. And I, too, had a strict religious upbringing. I've had to kind of rebuild my own belief system.

Things are always shaky when you first get together in a V. You have to let your partner (the hinge) know what your wants and needs are, and possibly remind him of those things if he ever accidentally neglects you because of NRE.

Glad to have you with us.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[MsCurious]

Welcome, DownUnder!
Religion can complicate things. I'm new here, too, and will be looking for similar advice on how to anticipate problems with religious family. :-/ Luck to both of us! lol

 

[Ever]

I thought I was all alone in this...

So did I and what a relief to find out we are not alone! I'm really new here so I don't have a whole lot of advice, especially when it comes to very religious families, but I am glad you found us. Everyone I have talked to here has been very friendly and helpful. Good luck to you on your journey through the world of polyamory.