Musso
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I discovered 2 years ago that I'm carved out for polyamory. That has led to a seperation, soon to become a divorce.
Prior to my separation, the compromise my wife and I had in order to keep our relationship working was that I could cuddle others platonicaly, no kissing and no nudity. I actually enjoyed it quite a lot. It made me realize how much having a connection and affection is important to me.
Now that I'm separated and free to do whatever I want, I still prefer to stick to this kind of intimacy first, except that we could include kissing and gradually some nudity if it feels right. Of course with the right partner I would happily let the relationship become romantic and sexual over time. The problem though is that everybody on dating apps seem to want right away either sex or romance.
Has anyone had a similar intimate friendship where the emphasis is on affection, connection and friendship without much expectation or pressure to turn it to something romantic or sexual? I feel it's a fluid way to get to know someone without having to decide whether or not they're right for you as a romantic partner.
Do you have an idea of the reasons why most people don't seem interested in this proposal?
Prior to my separation, the compromise my wife and I had in order to keep our relationship working was that I could cuddle others platonicaly, no kissing and no nudity. I actually enjoyed it quite a lot. It made me realize how much having a connection and affection is important to me.
Now that I'm separated and free to do whatever I want, I still prefer to stick to this kind of intimacy first, except that we could include kissing and gradually some nudity if it feels right. Of course with the right partner I would happily let the relationship become romantic and sexual over time. The problem though is that everybody on dating apps seem to want right away either sex or romance.
Has anyone had a similar intimate friendship where the emphasis is on affection, connection and friendship without much expectation or pressure to turn it to something romantic or sexual? I feel it's a fluid way to get to know someone without having to decide whether or not they're right for you as a romantic partner.
Do you have an idea of the reasons why most people don't seem interested in this proposal?
I have one male friend that I like to hug and handhold with and it doesn't progress to a "relationship", but more often than not I can't really keep things touchy but platonic.
