CaptShade
New member
Good morning, all! (Okay, okay. Yeah, it's not morning (especially up here in Ottawa, where I'm at right now on business, but the sun is rising somewhere on the planet, right?). Obviously new to the group. Also *VERY* new to polyamory, and polyamorous relationships.
Short background, been married for a few years to someone I've known for just about forever (about 28 years!), but have loved from afar for about that long. A few months back, though, I got a massive boycrush on a rapier fighter who whipped my ass (no, you naughty bastards, not in that way), but who then offered to teach me -- fighting, and then later other things.
So, yes. *I* started this.
Nothing initially happened, but I and my wife started hanging out with him and his wife, and things just clicked. Amazingly so. And now, here we are, in a fully-meshed quad relationship. I consider them all family, and I love them all. In fact, I'm head over heels in love with them all. They *are* my family. And if I have anything to say about it, they will continue to be so. But, it seems that what we are building is somewhat rare, and somewhat hard to maintain. And yes, there are issues here and there, but things look to be shaking out rather nicely (individual insecurities aside, which are being worked on).
Mainly here to network/communicate/hang out with other like-minded folk, and to learn. Learn about who I am, who we are, and where we are going, from people in similar situations. Looking to ask for advice when I am screwing up, and how to stop being a dumbs**t when I do so (and yes, at the moment, it’s mostly me doing the screwing up).
This feels right. I think, I believe, it *is* right. I think I’m happier (generally) than I have been…ever.
What I’m looking for here is, I suppose (besides just general learning), is support from the aforementioned like-minded folk, wisdom from those who’ve been there before me, and to contribute where I can.
Again, good morning to you all. And thank you for welcoming me in.
Short background, been married for a few years to someone I've known for just about forever (about 28 years!), but have loved from afar for about that long. A few months back, though, I got a massive boycrush on a rapier fighter who whipped my ass (no, you naughty bastards, not in that way), but who then offered to teach me -- fighting, and then later other things.
So, yes. *I* started this.
Nothing initially happened, but I and my wife started hanging out with him and his wife, and things just clicked. Amazingly so. And now, here we are, in a fully-meshed quad relationship. I consider them all family, and I love them all. In fact, I'm head over heels in love with them all. They *are* my family. And if I have anything to say about it, they will continue to be so. But, it seems that what we are building is somewhat rare, and somewhat hard to maintain. And yes, there are issues here and there, but things look to be shaking out rather nicely (individual insecurities aside, which are being worked on).
Mainly here to network/communicate/hang out with other like-minded folk, and to learn. Learn about who I am, who we are, and where we are going, from people in similar situations. Looking to ask for advice when I am screwing up, and how to stop being a dumbs**t when I do so (and yes, at the moment, it’s mostly me doing the screwing up).
This feels right. I think, I believe, it *is* right. I think I’m happier (generally) than I have been…ever.
What I’m looking for here is, I suppose (besides just general learning), is support from the aforementioned like-minded folk, wisdom from those who’ve been there before me, and to contribute where I can.
Again, good morning to you all. And thank you for welcoming me in.
