introducing Toni

Toni

Toni

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Hi everybody,
My name is Toni, living in the Netherlands, being single and 55 years old.
Have some experience with dating polyamory men, and one of them mentioned this site last year.
Want to see my picture, see my profile.
In my album, which is to see for everybody, you can see my recent picture.
Am curious what overall experience is.
Am reading a Dutch book about a woman, loving 2 men, not fiction but autobiographic.
In this book, this site was also mentioned.
At the moment I am single and I am not sure if I will ever meet a 'traditional' man, or will live together, or will get married.
So that is why I have no problem with dating with married men who are polyamory.
Before I write a novel, I would like to know what is (still) happening here.
Have a nice weekend.
Toni
 
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Hi toni!
This site us really cool and there are lots of really knowledgable poly people with all sorts of knowledge!
Welcome!
South eastern us
 
Greetings Toni,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Polyamory.com is quite an active site, especially Poly Relationships Corner and Life stories and blogs. Check those boards out, see what interests you and calls to you. If you have any questions, we'll be happy to help.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 
thanks

thanks both for your welcome
will visit the two items you mentioned
have a nice day!
 
Hi Toni - welcome to the Forum! As Kevin pointed out, the poly relationships corner is very active - and there are a lot of blogs in the blog section that will give you some good insights as well. In the several months that I have been on this forum, I have found most of the folks here to be friendly and helpful. Best of luck on your journey! Al
 
my journey

As I look at my relationships in the past, and now, I see a difference.
30 years ago I used to be jealous.
Though I really hated that emotion.
Yes, I was afraid to lose that friend at that moment.
Not that it worked, the relationship ended anyway.
I learn more and more to live in the here and now.
To enjoy now.
The last man I met last Thursday, well, lets' see what will happen.
He was married for 28 years and wants to be free now and does not want to love just one woman.
I cannot believe why someone is in a marriage for 28 years, that already had a 'false' start.
Why don't you choose for yourselves, because you deserve the best.
And if you do not love yourself enough, how can / could you love anyone else?
These are nice things to talk about.
We had a great date.
But I told him, I want to be with somebody who (when he is with me) opens up and gives himself as complete as possible.
I will not be taken for granted, I do not take any other human being for granted.
I open up and give myself without holding anything back.
That is what I expect from my 'lover' or friend or whatever someone calls it.
I am very happy that I can do this now.
Some things just happened this year, at the age of 55.
So happy that I do this now, it makes me even more happy.
I know that when this man will see me for some time, weeks, months, more than that, that he will have to open up and love without restrictions.
I will see how this will evolve, if it will in the first place :D
ALso I see a married man, he is really great, sexy, intelligent, we talk about spiritual books we read. He is in therapy with his wife. Ofcourse I hope he will be happy again with his wife. They are not intimate for several years now.
I hope he will keep on visiting me on his bike, where we will have some wine and cheese, and talking and loving.
Yes, ofcourse it is possible to love two men or more.
I recognize a lot in the book I am reading right now.
If you can love your parents, brothers, why could'nt you love two men, two women, or anybody?
With my buddhist vision I already am able to love everybody :D
I hope to enjoy these two men for a longer time.
Not sure If I will ever live together or get married (though I am also a romantic person who would like to be asked for marriage) but I enjoy the moment right now, doing my voluntary work and other things.
If I put this in the wrong topic, please correct me and replace, no problem at all.
Maybe I should create a personal topic.
Thanks for reading. ;-)
 
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You can always start a blog in the blogs section. Although I suppose posting here is fine too, it is after all your thread.

It sounds like you have made some healthy choices in your life right now, and good things are coming to you. I'm glad to hear that, and hope it will continue.
 
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