Issues between husband and meta

Daddysboogerbaby said:
I talked to my husband about it tonight. If she doesn't pay something soon that's what we will do. Reduce the extra unnecessary features to an amount we can afford if she won't pay up.
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Your first posts made it sound like she was paying the whole cell phone bill for you, but missing some months. Your later posts made it sound like the three of you pro-rate and each pay a share every month, and some months she says she doesn't have money for her share. Which is it?
 
Emm said:
Will you get slugged for 6GB of out-of-plan data if you reduce her extra allotment but she doesn't change her data usage habits?
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Ah see, this is a lesson we learned early. She has NO self control on her gigs. She will use as much as she wants Reguardless of what the ending cost is. USUALLY, she would pay it. MOSTLY, she wouldn't. So we got family base. An extra feature that we pay for. It allows us to control how much data each person is allowed to use. So, if we drop her data down we also have control over her using a set amount.

I know you are wondering why we haven't done this yet...mainly because my husband caters to her and her every need and want. This has caused major problems in the past between he and I. Slowly he has come to his senses and finally realized she doesn't poop golden eggs like he once thought. He's finally on the same page with me on her controlling behavior and agreed to the data drop if she doesn't change her spending habits.
 
WhatHappened said:
Your first posts made it sound like she was paying the whole cell phone bill for you, but missing some months. Your later posts made it sound like the three of you pro-rate and each pay a share every month, and some months she says she doesn't have money for her share. Which is it?
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The bill is in hubby's name. We all 4 have our own phone on this contract. Hubby, me and my bf pay our share at a lower cost than she does since we have significantly less data. Her part gets paid Reguardless of whether she dishes out the money or not. Either she puts the money up or our money goes towards it so it is paid completely. When she doesn't help like she's supposed to, especially for 2-3 months in a row, it hurts our pockets and we have to go without certain privileges while she gets whatever she wants. Is that any clearer?
 
Daddysboogerbaby said:
We are on a limited income and her lack of responsibility hurts us. This is my husband's issue, I talk to him about it but it doesn't help, in one ear and out the other. He really needs to get a backbone and step up.
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Er, well - YOU need to step up, too. Or, rather, put your foot down! The relationship is his but he's made it your issue. You need to take control of the bank account, budgeting, and bill-paying. Paychecks and/or other income goes into your account and YOU decide how it gets spent. Give him his allowance and when he runs out, he runs out. Cancel those special features. Tell him his wrecklessness with your money is unacceptable. It's your household and he's being negligent by ignoring it and letting her get away with this crap, so hon, it's time for you to be more proactive.

Do you all live together? How long has your husband been involved with her? Why did you decide to all be on the same plan anyway? Let her get her own plan and pay her own phone bill, like most grown-ups do!
 
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Emm said:
Will you get slugged for 6GB of out-of-plan data if you reduce her extra allotment but she doesn't change her data usage habits?
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Yep, be careful about removing her data or any other features. If you lower the data and she continued to use it anyways, you would get hit with an enormous bill.

If things get to the point where you have to do something about the continued monthly charges, it is possible to have her removed from the account. They can credit you the termination fee as long as she agrees to a contract continuing service in her own name.

If she won't pay the bill and she won't take over the contract, well, that's really uncool of her.

I used to work for a cell company and feel pretty confident on this. (I've also seen hurt/angry ex's wrack up huge bills after break ups, so just be aware of that possibility, too)
 
Sending Healing Thoughts

I really wish I had more experience with this, so that I could provide more useful help. Perhaps you can sit down with your husband and figure out why he is perpetually returning to someone who you feel is taking advantage of him. In the end, it may help to know whether he feels the same as you do about it, or if he has another take.

Please just remember to be compassionate, but also take good care of yourself. Your feelings sound very reasonable to me, please don't discount them. Have heart!
 
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