Kind of new to poly

PittDruid

PittDruid

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I have been of a poly mindset most of my life, but two years ago I married what I figured was a mono woman. (She had a lot of issues with cheating BFs before me.) One night we start talking about poly and we decided we could do it. We are both straight. We decided to date other people. Is this how it has happened for anyone else? I am finding it hard to talk to any of the poly women, most want a relationship with a couple or just another woman.
 
Does the woman have to be poly

Or just attracted to you, and not dependent on a relationship where she will requires your full attention and focus?

I'm recently entered your situation. Read my "paradigm shift to poly" thread, and you'll see everything I was fearing. What it took for me was simply solid attraction and being open and honest.
 
I think you are right about the similarities, but I think yours is a bit more.

I read your post and it helped me out, so thank you.
 
I'm not sure if "a bit more" is meant to be a good or bad impression.

But thanks for the read.
 
It shifted fast, but it was a long time coming

We've been together since 1999 and known one another since '97 as great friends, so that's why the the transition was easy.

High levels of openness are required, as well as powerful amounts of love and respect for one another's separate lives. Fortunately, these were all in place for us. Furthermore, we've been so happy now that we feel we can share everything and talk about anything.

Having a relationship where together you can open the control panel and look at the clockwork, freely assess and discuss the situations at hand and tweak the gears when they need them to be altered, that is the modern-day fairy tale.

I hope your shift is a bit easier, though.
 
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