Bouncingbetty
New member
I decided to start a new blog as the one I had before is so far off from my poly life now, though it has not been that long. I will start with a quick review of how I came to poly...
About a year and a half ago I found myself feeling very unhappy with life. I had everything I had ever wanted: kids, a husband, etc. but I was not happy. Exploring these feelings opened me up to realizing that I am in fact not straight. I now identify as pansexual but at the time bisexual was the only term I knew for it. I was excited about discovering this new side of me and desperately wanted to find a way I could experience a relationship with a woman while keeping my “happy” marriage alive. I began looking up things online and stumbled across polyamory. I had never heard of anything like it. I guess I knew about open relationships but never even thought of that as a valid option.
In June 2016, I came out to my husband about being bisexual. I meant for the conversation to stop there but it flowed into polyamory. We talked for many months about the options, always with him being unsure and me becoming more engrossed with the concept with everything that I read. In September I messaged Al99, whom I had been reading all of his posts about how his wife got him to open their marriage. I asked him to give me advice. How can I get my husband to embrace this like you? What should I say and not say? Al gave me great advice and our conversations develop into friendship and then more. We live pretty far away from each other but decided we wanted to date. I managed to convince my husband to try poly in October. He was okay with the concept of me with a woman and he figured a relationship with Al was rather harmless being so long distant. My husband seemed to be doing well with poly. I talked to him about Al and he let me go out on dates with my gf. We still had many discussions about things. On New Year’s Eve my gf was at my house (this was not the first time my husband met her). He saw me with my arm around her. The next day he said he could not do poly and we ended our relationship. We will officially be divorced at the end of July. Since January I have been actively poly and it has been confusing and wonderful, stressful and peaceful, and totally worth it.
About a year and a half ago I found myself feeling very unhappy with life. I had everything I had ever wanted: kids, a husband, etc. but I was not happy. Exploring these feelings opened me up to realizing that I am in fact not straight. I now identify as pansexual but at the time bisexual was the only term I knew for it. I was excited about discovering this new side of me and desperately wanted to find a way I could experience a relationship with a woman while keeping my “happy” marriage alive. I began looking up things online and stumbled across polyamory. I had never heard of anything like it. I guess I knew about open relationships but never even thought of that as a valid option.
In June 2016, I came out to my husband about being bisexual. I meant for the conversation to stop there but it flowed into polyamory. We talked for many months about the options, always with him being unsure and me becoming more engrossed with the concept with everything that I read. In September I messaged Al99, whom I had been reading all of his posts about how his wife got him to open their marriage. I asked him to give me advice. How can I get my husband to embrace this like you? What should I say and not say? Al gave me great advice and our conversations develop into friendship and then more. We live pretty far away from each other but decided we wanted to date. I managed to convince my husband to try poly in October. He was okay with the concept of me with a woman and he figured a relationship with Al was rather harmless being so long distant. My husband seemed to be doing well with poly. I talked to him about Al and he let me go out on dates with my gf. We still had many discussions about things. On New Year’s Eve my gf was at my house (this was not the first time my husband met her). He saw me with my arm around her. The next day he said he could not do poly and we ended our relationship. We will officially be divorced at the end of July. Since January I have been actively poly and it has been confusing and wonderful, stressful and peaceful, and totally worth it.
