Hi, I'm Pete, almost completely new to polyamory.
I've been dating this mono girl for around 3 years. We started seeing each other at nightclubs, spent a couple nights together, and I got attached to her.
Her life was really messy, and I wanted to help her without getting too involved. I knew it could happen, and I was ready for full-involvement, I just wanted to avoid it, if possible.
So instead of having a "regular" relationship (by our society's standards), I proposed we have an "open" relationship, and she agreed. We even made that public on Facebook back then.
We didn't discuss any rules. She could date and fuck whoever she wanted, and me too. To my surprise, I didn't freak out the first time she partied by herself or slept at other people's houses. Nor did I freak out the second time. Third. Fourth. I did feel jealous once or twice, for reasons I never understood, but it was a weak kind of jealousy, totally tolerable.
As for me, I never dated another person. I did fuck a friend once. That girl was my obsession before I even met her (I found her on the Internet). When we first met, we basically spent the weekend fucking. Those were the best fucks ever. I still think of this girl almost daily, though we have very little contact nowadays.
When I proposed this open relationship to my girlfriend, I knew she would fuck more than 10 times as many people as I would, and I was fine with that.
However as time went by, her life became even more messy and dangerous (she got really depressed), and I realized polyamory wasn't for her at that time. It wasn't me meeting other girls that triggered her depression, but as I'm sure lots of you will understand, it certainly didn't help her to be in a poly relationship with someone who cared for her and gave her support, including financial support, while she went through depression. Also remember it was my idea, so who knows, maybe she only agreed to it because she had no choice? I don't know. All I know is she was glad I proposed to "close" our relationship, and we've been together since then.
The problem is that it's been 3 years and I still feel incredibly infatuated by that other girl. I also feel not only like fucking other girls, but forming relationships with them (no one specifically, just in general). So every day I think a bit about polyamory, and I've finally decided to create an account here and talk about those things.
So, hello everyone :s
I've been dating this mono girl for around 3 years. We started seeing each other at nightclubs, spent a couple nights together, and I got attached to her.
Her life was really messy, and I wanted to help her without getting too involved. I knew it could happen, and I was ready for full-involvement, I just wanted to avoid it, if possible.
So instead of having a "regular" relationship (by our society's standards), I proposed we have an "open" relationship, and she agreed. We even made that public on Facebook back then.
We didn't discuss any rules. She could date and fuck whoever she wanted, and me too. To my surprise, I didn't freak out the first time she partied by herself or slept at other people's houses. Nor did I freak out the second time. Third. Fourth. I did feel jealous once or twice, for reasons I never understood, but it was a weak kind of jealousy, totally tolerable.
As for me, I never dated another person. I did fuck a friend once. That girl was my obsession before I even met her (I found her on the Internet). When we first met, we basically spent the weekend fucking. Those were the best fucks ever. I still think of this girl almost daily, though we have very little contact nowadays.
When I proposed this open relationship to my girlfriend, I knew she would fuck more than 10 times as many people as I would, and I was fine with that.
However as time went by, her life became even more messy and dangerous (she got really depressed), and I realized polyamory wasn't for her at that time. It wasn't me meeting other girls that triggered her depression, but as I'm sure lots of you will understand, it certainly didn't help her to be in a poly relationship with someone who cared for her and gave her support, including financial support, while she went through depression. Also remember it was my idea, so who knows, maybe she only agreed to it because she had no choice? I don't know. All I know is she was glad I proposed to "close" our relationship, and we've been together since then.
The problem is that it's been 3 years and I still feel incredibly infatuated by that other girl. I also feel not only like fucking other girls, but forming relationships with them (no one specifically, just in general). So every day I think a bit about polyamory, and I've finally decided to create an account here and talk about those things.
So, hello everyone :s
