Monogamy-Polymory couple

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Accolades123

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I am a 48 year old Indian male with a 46 year old Indian wife. I am into monogamy and my wife has a mature gentleman as a boyfriend as well. I accept her polyamory lifestyle. We are married for over 13 years now.

Here is how we took this decision: We had an arranged marriage. I was a virgin till marriage and my wife was not. Over time my submissive sexual traits became apparent to my wife. It did not blend well with her intimate needs as she likes a man who takes control as well as treats her respectfully. This lead to a conflict in our intimate life as she did not like sexually dominating me and my sexual style was submissive and did not turn her on.

We started drifting apart mentally. After few years of thinking, I suggested to her that she take a boyfriend. She thought about this for a few months and last year met a mature senior gentleman she likes. They have been dating for a few months now.

I can surely feel the zest in her and she loves me in a greater way. The boyfriend is a polite and responsible gentleman. That is how we got into monogamy-polyamory relationship where my wife has a boyfriend. This satisfies my submissive side as well.

Question: Will be interesting to know how other couples adjusted to combination of monogamy-polyamory relationship in their marriages.
 
For us, there isn't really a difference in sexual styles. They both prefer to domine me to a certain extent. However I love the mix of their personalities. My boyfriend is mono and my husband poly but only dates me
 
We entered into our relationship as open. We did some swinging for a year then I discovered that casual sex wasn't for me. I wanted to have a close friendship that was also sexual. He continued having casual sex while I was monogamous 2.5 years. I then got with my boyfriend and my husband thought he would try dating and looking for something with more substance as well. He discovered that he didn't want another relationship and he likes his alone time. So he's polysexual and I'm in a poly relationship with him and my boyfriend is monogamous.
 
Hi Accolades123,

I am in a V with two companions, and those two are legally/lawfully married to each other. I technically consider myself polyamorous, but I'm not the hinge of the V nor am I looking for anyone new to date. Over the years I have found that I like my solitude, so what we have works for me. I suppose the other man in our V has adjusted in a similar way, but I don't want to speak for him.

Does that help?
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
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