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sue21asb

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My husband had been hanging around here. So, I figured I'd quit being a lurking creep.

I have been married for 10 years. I was 19 and engaged when I first seriously considered taking a secondary partner, and though it never went beyond him joining us in the bedroom, it was a desire I haven't ever been able to shake. And though I have been monogamous with my husband, my heart wasn't into monogamy. Over the years, I have been quite vocal about wanting another partner, man or woman.

Finally, after 10 years, I decided I was tired of being ashamed of my sexuality and I told my husband everything that has been going on in my brain/heart for the entire time he has known me. Impressing upon him that when I mentioned other partners before, I was quite serious. We are now dipping our toes into the poly pool.

So, my life currently looks like this: me, husband, our 4 kids, and my pretty new long distance relationship.
 
Hi and welcome!

Sounds like you are being cautious and taking baby steps as you need to, which is smart. Care to tell us your husband's username here, so we know who is who? How did you meet the person you are in an LDR with? Is that a male or female, and how often do you communicate? Do you have plans to meet in person and close the distance, even if temporarily?
 
Mcal8671, I think. Something like that.

I met Him (other partner) online over a month ago. We talk daily via phone or text. Yes, we plan to meet in what will hopefully be the near future.
 
Greetings sue21asb,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Yep, Mcal8671 is your husband's handle. :D It sounds like you and he did quite a bit of talking about poly before it became a reality. Congrats on your new LDR partner!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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My How Things Change

I haven't been here in months, but since then, things have changed, drastically. The husband and I spent a good portion of the late summer exploring what poly meant for us, and I'm happy with where we have landed.

The initial LDR I was in fizzed out fairly quickly, after I started dating people IRL. I dated someone off and on for the month of July, and then at the end of July, I went on a date with someone who would eventually become my Mr. Tuesday. He and I have been seeing each other since, but he just moved to Dallas, leaving me again in a LDR.
 
Thanks for your update; it sounds like a lot has been going on.
 
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