AlainaChrisPlusone21
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Hi , like my user name , my name is Alaina and my husband name is Chris or Spencer which he prefers. Looking through the information and I have come to realize I , my self, been trying to keep a polyamorous relationship with my partners. I was able to fall in love and forum a deep emotional and loving relationship more than with one man. I have no dislike for female relations I just found that was not my nitch. I recently got married to my husband Spencer, we were happy but I found my self still feeling like I wanted to have another emotional attachment, it was nothing against my husband, I would not do anything to put our relationship in a hard spot or possibly lose. Coming across this definition and group I had never herd about, at first I was very against it since monogamy was the only way I was ever showed. I asked my self , what right do others have to tell me how to be happy to my highest ability? I remember when my friend was viewed as wrong, unmoral, and not right for being openly gay and now I see how after so many years people no longer bat an eye to him.
After getting married my husband's best man stayed, at first I was against it and very cautious because I knew I could become attached or something viewed as very wrong. Weeks passed and no matter how much I tried to stay away or think it was bad , I started to trust him and we talked, now at this time I kept my research with polyamory to my self and I realize this was my first mistake and if I was starting to see this was my lifestyle I wanted I should have gone to my husband and had a long discussion with him.
Our room mate moved out and with him leaving I realized it was time to speak up and now my husband and I are ready to look into this life style and getting ready to make our change. I trust my husband, and he trusts me , we have open communication more than ever now, no matter how little the things are or how useless it may be I love him and he needs to know how I am feeling, what he feels or anything he or I may want or have a problem with.
We are happy to talk and love more information on polyamory, we have looked over stories and alot through this forum and kind of figured what we would want and would like to connect more with people and hear their stories. See how your life works around it and how you deal with the social outlook on your partners? Coming out? arrangements? Values? Kids? basic safe rules? Jealousy?
We are searching for information and feedback and support.
Thank you so much.
After getting married my husband's best man stayed, at first I was against it and very cautious because I knew I could become attached or something viewed as very wrong. Weeks passed and no matter how much I tried to stay away or think it was bad , I started to trust him and we talked, now at this time I kept my research with polyamory to my self and I realize this was my first mistake and if I was starting to see this was my lifestyle I wanted I should have gone to my husband and had a long discussion with him.
Our room mate moved out and with him leaving I realized it was time to speak up and now my husband and I are ready to look into this life style and getting ready to make our change. I trust my husband, and he trusts me , we have open communication more than ever now, no matter how little the things are or how useless it may be I love him and he needs to know how I am feeling, what he feels or anything he or I may want or have a problem with.
We are happy to talk and love more information on polyamory, we have looked over stories and alot through this forum and kind of figured what we would want and would like to connect more with people and hear their stories. See how your life works around it and how you deal with the social outlook on your partners? Coming out? arrangements? Values? Kids? basic safe rules? Jealousy?
We are searching for information and feedback and support.
Thank you so much.
