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Frost

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Good morning/evening/night

I've finally taken a step that I'm proud of. Years and years of dating and trying to be accepted into normal social situations has led me to question the ideas of monogomy.

I've always regretted the fact in relationships that my partner wanted certain things that I didn't want to give or vice versa, it has always been hard to try and find that one person who matches everything I want in a partner as well as everything she wants.

I'm 29 and currently stepped out of the normal life situation of working every day to go back and study languages and I although I have felt like this my whole life since I was at high school (the weird kid) I was never able to put a word to it until a year ago when my friend came out as polyamourous and curiousity set in. Although I continued to date, I always made sure if things were starting to get serious that I told the person, I don't date exclusivily as I had in previous relationships, my partners were aware of this before engaging in anything sexual. More and more over the last year, after reading hundreds of documents, blogs and watching videos, I feel more than anything that this path was for me.

However I am worried that with my family that one day in my ideal relationship that I will have to tell my family, my parents have been married for almost 40 years and although that has really inspired me to keep trying monogomy, which I have. I still feel something missing and I although I have sexual partners who are fine with my situation, my partners are not aware of my other partners by name. They are aware that I have other really close friends. I love them all in different ways, some extremely sexual and others very emotional.

I hope that this forum will bring me closer to others of my mind-set in this radically changing world where things are becoming more and more acceptable although I feel that polyamory will not be as accepted as same sex relationships yet.

Thank you all for taking the time to read this, I look forward to talking with you online soon :)
 
Greetings Frost,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Re:
"I feel that polyamory will not be as accepted as same sex relationships yet."

I agree. Although, polyamory is a growing phenomenon. People will hear more about it as the years go by.

I take it you are somewhat nervous about your family (perhaps especially your parents) finding out about your poly inclinations/interests. The good folks here on Polyamory.com will try to help you get through that transition.

There is a lot to learn about polyamory, so keep reading and don't hesitate to post any questions you may have.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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