AnnieAngel
New member
Hi all,
I recently discovered this site and have appreciated the information and encouragement found here.
A little bit about me: I'm 47, divorced, live alone and just recently became an empty nester, which has caused me a lot of loneliness.
A little background on my situation: I just began dating a married man. Husband (H) and wife (W) have been married for almost 40 years. About 10 years ago she began dating a same-sex -partner (P) who eventually moved in to their house. I first became friends with P (strictly platonic) and then met H and W. A few months ago H and I started dating and now he usually spends a night a week at my house.
W has quite a few health problems and both of her relationships no longer include sex although she is very dependent on both them in other ways. Her partner takes care of many of her medical needs and her husband does most of the work around the house and things like that.
I used to spend quite a bit of time at their house and it seemed that W was pushing H and I together and agreed to my relationship with him. He has basically been pushed aside the last 10 years and she seems to be pretty controlling. He is very laid back and very much a people pleaser. I really do care for him and he has said the same. We are a lot alike in that we are two lonely souls. I have never felt so loved and cared about in previous relationships and am amazed at how well we have connected.
Right now I am just trying to sort through my feelings and figure out boundaries. I don't spend time with all of them much anymore because I feel a little uncomfortable with W now. I also don't want her to feel bad (I guess I have some guilt). I feel frustrated because I don't get much time with him but am trying to be thankful for what I do get.
I'm also trying to not put any extra pressure on him because his life is very stressful and demanding and I want to be an oasis for him. We really enjoy our time together even though most of it is at my house just relaxing (or in bed!!!!).
I know this is all new to me and it will take time to adjust to everything just like any new relationship (just more complicated!) but I hope I am doing this right and being open and understanding. I guess in a way I'm afraid this is all going to come crashing down and I will be hurt. I had NEVER considered anything like this before (Probably because my ex-husband was a cheater and very degrading toward me so I build up a lot of resentment), but this is an amazing relationship that I want to continue.
Anyway, that's me and my story. Thanks for reading!
I recently discovered this site and have appreciated the information and encouragement found here.
A little bit about me: I'm 47, divorced, live alone and just recently became an empty nester, which has caused me a lot of loneliness.
A little background on my situation: I just began dating a married man. Husband (H) and wife (W) have been married for almost 40 years. About 10 years ago she began dating a same-sex -partner (P) who eventually moved in to their house. I first became friends with P (strictly platonic) and then met H and W. A few months ago H and I started dating and now he usually spends a night a week at my house.
W has quite a few health problems and both of her relationships no longer include sex although she is very dependent on both them in other ways. Her partner takes care of many of her medical needs and her husband does most of the work around the house and things like that.
I used to spend quite a bit of time at their house and it seemed that W was pushing H and I together and agreed to my relationship with him. He has basically been pushed aside the last 10 years and she seems to be pretty controlling. He is very laid back and very much a people pleaser. I really do care for him and he has said the same. We are a lot alike in that we are two lonely souls. I have never felt so loved and cared about in previous relationships and am amazed at how well we have connected.
Right now I am just trying to sort through my feelings and figure out boundaries. I don't spend time with all of them much anymore because I feel a little uncomfortable with W now. I also don't want her to feel bad (I guess I have some guilt). I feel frustrated because I don't get much time with him but am trying to be thankful for what I do get.
I'm also trying to not put any extra pressure on him because his life is very stressful and demanding and I want to be an oasis for him. We really enjoy our time together even though most of it is at my house just relaxing (or in bed!!!!).
I know this is all new to me and it will take time to adjust to everything just like any new relationship (just more complicated!) but I hope I am doing this right and being open and understanding. I guess in a way I'm afraid this is all going to come crashing down and I will be hurt. I had NEVER considered anything like this before (Probably because my ex-husband was a cheater and very degrading toward me so I build up a lot of resentment), but this is an amazing relationship that I want to continue.
Anyway, that's me and my story. Thanks for reading!
