atlpolyhacker
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Several years ago, a drunken night with my wife and a friend turned into a moment I couldn't un-see, where something snapped in my brain and I realized that I enjoy watching her with other people. We've been engaging in an interesting form of "polyfidelity" ever since. We currently live in ITP Atlanta with our co-husand of 2+ years, having moved here in November. It's been a long story along the way, including dating on Craigslist, global travel (I work in IT security sales and did 300K miles in 4 years), a pair of failed lesbian-lovin' attempts, an affair, and a pack of 5 frigging cats; at the moment we're in a closed triad. Never having actually achieved the go-ahead to date women (men are up in the air; I'm 90% sure I'm bi, but have never quite sealed the deal, despite some serious dabbling), and currently dealing with the fact of being the sole bread-winner of the (ridiculously oversized) house, and in an often contentious relationship with my co-husband, some days I'm frustrated by where my life has gone since my wife and I opened up our marriage. That said, when things go right with all three of us - when we're laughing and loving and being together as a family - I wouldn't give it up for the world. Given my intent to live at least another 50 years alongside my wife, I feel like I can play the long game of opening the relationship up in the other direction, given some of the trust issues we're dealing with right now.
I realized after moving to Atlanta that I don't know a soul down here outside of work and my wife's group of friends (she went to a boarding magnet school in Birmingham, and has a number of close Internet friends who live in town), and to top it off I lost a lot of contact with my closest work friends by switching departments. As much as southen hospitality does appear to be a real thing, it gets lonely down here, especially when my co-husband asks for alone time with our wife (as we both do somewhat regularly).
After picking up "The Polyamorists Next Door" (I'm about 1/3 of the way through it), I've been inspired to seek community on the Internet. Ideally I'd love to meet people who are physically close and could hang out in person (and possibly share in my hobby of edible landscaping - I like to garden, especially delicious things), but seeing as how we don't know anyone in the community at all, I'm also open to friends by TCP/IP, so to speak. We're out of the closet in some places with our relationship, but not others, and so if nothing else having a place where I can be honest about the nature of my relationship will be great.
Looking forward to hearing from anyone and everyone here, and happy to answer any questions this post may raise.
I realized after moving to Atlanta that I don't know a soul down here outside of work and my wife's group of friends (she went to a boarding magnet school in Birmingham, and has a number of close Internet friends who live in town), and to top it off I lost a lot of contact with my closest work friends by switching departments. As much as southen hospitality does appear to be a real thing, it gets lonely down here, especially when my co-husband asks for alone time with our wife (as we both do somewhat regularly).
After picking up "The Polyamorists Next Door" (I'm about 1/3 of the way through it), I've been inspired to seek community on the Internet. Ideally I'd love to meet people who are physically close and could hang out in person (and possibly share in my hobby of edible landscaping - I like to garden, especially delicious things), but seeing as how we don't know anyone in the community at all, I'm also open to friends by TCP/IP, so to speak. We're out of the closet in some places with our relationship, but not others, and so if nothing else having a place where I can be honest about the nature of my relationship will be great.
Looking forward to hearing from anyone and everyone here, and happy to answer any questions this post may raise.
