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[Stlouiscouple]

Hi!! My fiancé and are new to the forum and I guess new to the poly lifestyle!! We were in a triad with another male for several months and soon felt very used!! We are currently actively seeking a new love for a long term relationship and having a heck of a time!! We would rather wet people online but all we are running into are people with one time fetishes and those not understanding the type of lifestyle we want anyone have any suggestions on where to go to look for other available poly people!?

 

[MoostacheKitteh]

Welcome! I am new as well.

I think there are a few poly dating sites but from what I gathered people on there just want sex and nobody is serious. It's kind of a shame that there aren't many places where we can meet people to date.

Try making an account on OKCupid and see what you find. There are a lot of creeps on there so you will have to be choosy about who you talk to but I know for a fact that there are polyamorous folks on there that are looking for serious poly relationships.

Good luck!

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Stlouiscouple,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

There are various links I know of for finding poly people and groups. I'll just show you what I have.

• https://fetlife.com/
• http://www.okcupid.com/
• http://www.facebook.com/
• http://www.beyondtwo.com/
• http://www.polygroups.com/
• http://polyamory.meetup.com/
• http://adultfriendfinder.com/
• http://www.polymatchmaker.com/
• http://www.polyamory.org/SF/groups.html
• http://polyevents.blogspot.com/#localgroups
• http://openingup.net/resources/local-orginizations-u-s/
• http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?p=83656#post83656
• http://www.polyamory.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=11

You can also do stuff like google "St. Louis polyamory" or "Missouri polyamory." Or ...

"As for where to meet poly people, if by some chance you are interested in anything alternative like Renaissance fairs, goth culture, sci-fi conventions, indie music, bdsm, or any small fringe group, you will be more likely to meet people who have at least heard of poly and are accepting of it."
-- SpaceHippieGeek, Polyamorous Percolations

Even if it's not an "alternative" type group, if there's a club or something in your area that does something you're interested in, you can always join that group and it just gives you a way to get out there and meet people. If you meet someone on a platonic level and get to talking about poly, then they can decide how they feel about it without any "pressure to agree." Then if they do decide poly doesn't bother them too much, and some kind of romantic connection subsequently develops, you'll already have "had the poly conversation" with them.

Perhaps the most important tip is: Exercise patience. True love doesn't come along every day, you have to be yourself and be available and just trust that you'll find what you're looking for in due time.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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