New to this rollercoaster ride!

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Peachy

New member
Hello All,

Wanted to say a little introduction.
From the U.K.
I am new to poly, about 6 months, though I had been curious about the idea for a couple of years.
I am in a relationship, (my first poly relationship), with a wonderful man who is married.
I am solo poly and a single parent.
At times, I feel like I can't 'do' poly as it feels too difficult and complicated. Other times, I think it is amazing. I've realised that I have so many internalised monogamous frameworks and conditioning, (naturally). It's a LOT to get my head around.
I've struggled with my emotions around attachment, around missing, around jealousy.
I've questioned myself, 'could I love more than 1?', 'what if I am happy with just 1 partner, the one I have now?'

ALSO...wish polyamorous marriage were legal!
 
Greetings Peachy,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I read your other thread, and responded there briefly. To summarize, you seem to be a Kitchen Table Poly type of gal, while your metamour is a Parallel Poly type of gal. Hopefully that's where the conflict of interest occurs.

In poly, we must always keep our agreements with our partners. I can't tell whether this married man promised his wife he would only date partnered people. If he did, that may be some of the difficult and complicated part of poly that you are encountering. Poly can get complicated when promises are broken.

I hope we can help you navigate this new lovestyle. I don't think there's anything wrong with it if you are happy with the one partner you have now. I only have one partner, she has two partners (me and one other guy), and I am perfectly happy with that arrangement. And I agree with you, I wish poly marriage was legal!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
Welcome to the joys and struggles. Stick with it and work out the issues. You have joined an interesting group.
 
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