I’m a 35 year old woman using the name Iris here. I’m still working out exactly what I want in relationships and how I want to identify myself, but at this point in my life I’m both disenchanted with long term monogamy and pleasantly surprised by my seeming capacity to love more than one person.
I’ve had a few strong attractions for women but about 95% of my attractions are to men.
My last 3 relationships were with 3 very wonderful, very different people. I would say that I loved/love them all, but in very different ways, none of them in a “this is my one true soulmate” kind of way. Some of what I loved in one man was diametrically opposed to what I loved in another. These relationships all ended because one or the other of us moved, and while in my ideal world I would continue an open long distance relationship with two of them, that doesn’t seem to be something that works for them.
The things I struggle with when I think about polyamory are potential for raising a lot of insecurity/jealousy, feeling like I don’t necessarily have time to devote to more than one relationship, and feeling like the odds of meeting another poly/open person are slim where I live currently.
I’m passionate about my job (don’t want to get too specific about the job at this point as I live in a small fairly conservative town), and about the outdoors. Lately I’ve been trying to cultivate a deeper understanding of politics and power structures and trying to learn and think about and work towards alternatives. Right now my job takes up a lot of my time and I’m struggling to find balance among my varied interests.
I’ve had a few strong attractions for women but about 95% of my attractions are to men.
My last 3 relationships were with 3 very wonderful, very different people. I would say that I loved/love them all, but in very different ways, none of them in a “this is my one true soulmate” kind of way. Some of what I loved in one man was diametrically opposed to what I loved in another. These relationships all ended because one or the other of us moved, and while in my ideal world I would continue an open long distance relationship with two of them, that doesn’t seem to be something that works for them.
The things I struggle with when I think about polyamory are potential for raising a lot of insecurity/jealousy, feeling like I don’t necessarily have time to devote to more than one relationship, and feeling like the odds of meeting another poly/open person are slim where I live currently.
I’m passionate about my job (don’t want to get too specific about the job at this point as I live in a small fairly conservative town), and about the outdoors. Lately I’ve been trying to cultivate a deeper understanding of politics and power structures and trying to learn and think about and work towards alternatives. Right now my job takes up a lot of my time and I’m struggling to find balance among my varied interests.
