Hello,
This seems like a safe space to share my feelings and get some much needed input from people that may understand this dynamic much more than myself. So I’m just going to dive in.
My husband and I met when I was 19 he was 20. We moved very quickly as young lovers tend to do. We had a baby about a year and a half later. Shortly after our son was born he admitted that he had cheated on me a few times with some random women. I was crushed, but forgave him and we moved forward. Not long after we moved in together and started our life together. There was maybe always a little part of me that was resentful of the lying/ cheating.. this had been a common issue in past relationships.. although I was young and relatively inexperienced sexually, no one I had been with ever really made me feel like I was “enough” and the cheating in this and other relationships validated that for me.
Fast forward 3 years and I found out that my then fiancée was in a whole other relationship with a woman. Now this time I was faced with a different situation, it wasn’t casual sex it was someone he was falling in love with. He got her pregnant and everything! He told me that he loved me but was falling for her too (at least he was honest). Eventually he “chose” me and broke it off with her.
Soon after this he suggested we spice up our relationship sexually. I hesitantly agreed thinking this would fix things, if I agreed to this he could get the sexual frustration out of his system without the hurt and lying. And to be honest I looked at this as a way to sort of get payback for how he hurt me. He did everything to try to make it as comfortable as possible. We started out with a threesome with his best friend. We did that quite often, and progressed to threesomes with other girls occasionally and a few swinger parties
.
This seems like a safe space to share my feelings and get some much needed input from people that may understand this dynamic much more than myself. So I’m just going to dive in.
My husband and I met when I was 19 he was 20. We moved very quickly as young lovers tend to do. We had a baby about a year and a half later. Shortly after our son was born he admitted that he had cheated on me a few times with some random women. I was crushed, but forgave him and we moved forward. Not long after we moved in together and started our life together. There was maybe always a little part of me that was resentful of the lying/ cheating.. this had been a common issue in past relationships.. although I was young and relatively inexperienced sexually, no one I had been with ever really made me feel like I was “enough” and the cheating in this and other relationships validated that for me.
Fast forward 3 years and I found out that my then fiancée was in a whole other relationship with a woman. Now this time I was faced with a different situation, it wasn’t casual sex it was someone he was falling in love with. He got her pregnant and everything! He told me that he loved me but was falling for her too (at least he was honest). Eventually he “chose” me and broke it off with her.
Soon after this he suggested we spice up our relationship sexually. I hesitantly agreed thinking this would fix things, if I agreed to this he could get the sexual frustration out of his system without the hurt and lying. And to be honest I looked at this as a way to sort of get payback for how he hurt me. He did everything to try to make it as comfortable as possible. We started out with a threesome with his best friend. We did that quite often, and progressed to threesomes with other girls occasionally and a few swinger parties
.