I'm currently in a relationship with Cade, and both of us find the concept of polyamory appealing and natural for us.
I have another close friend, Frida, who I'd talked about having a relationship with in the past, and decided against it at the time. Frida shares many of my views on gender and relationships, but I have no idea if she'd be okay with a polyamorous relationship (and I'm not sure she does either).
Frida and Cade are already friends. More importantly, one of the major reasons Frida and I decided against a relationship was that she wanted someone as a creative outlet, and while we worked well in other respects, that was something I couldn't really provide. My current partner Cade, on the other hand could, and probably will, as a friend to Frida, even if I do nothing.
In addition, Frida has occasionally admitted she sometimes regrets not giving things a chance in the past. She hasn't had much experience with relationships.
All of this leads to me thinking that I should suggest the idea of bringing Frida into my current relationship with Cade, probably with me as the hinge. This isn't something I'd bring up until my existing relationship with Cade has stabilized (we're still very much in the NRE phase), of course.
Weighing out the possibilities suggests that it wouldn't wreck things just to bring it up, but I still have very mixed feelings about it. Frida is prone to my influence, and the last thing I want to do is pressure her into anything, especially by accident.
There's nothing wrong with my current relationship with Cade. I'm not looking to patch up any issues with it by doing this; indeed, my current relationship is quite healthy and likely to stay that way, regardless of what I bring up. I'm more worried about alienating Frida.
I have another close friend, Frida, who I'd talked about having a relationship with in the past, and decided against it at the time. Frida shares many of my views on gender and relationships, but I have no idea if she'd be okay with a polyamorous relationship (and I'm not sure she does either).
Frida and Cade are already friends. More importantly, one of the major reasons Frida and I decided against a relationship was that she wanted someone as a creative outlet, and while we worked well in other respects, that was something I couldn't really provide. My current partner Cade, on the other hand could, and probably will, as a friend to Frida, even if I do nothing.
In addition, Frida has occasionally admitted she sometimes regrets not giving things a chance in the past. She hasn't had much experience with relationships.
All of this leads to me thinking that I should suggest the idea of bringing Frida into my current relationship with Cade, probably with me as the hinge. This isn't something I'd bring up until my existing relationship with Cade has stabilized (we're still very much in the NRE phase), of course.
Weighing out the possibilities suggests that it wouldn't wreck things just to bring it up, but I still have very mixed feelings about it. Frida is prone to my influence, and the last thing I want to do is pressure her into anything, especially by accident.
There's nothing wrong with my current relationship with Cade. I'm not looking to patch up any issues with it by doing this; indeed, my current relationship is quite healthy and likely to stay that way, regardless of what I bring up. I'm more worried about alienating Frida.
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