Hello 
[TLDR;Happy marriage, happy partner, happy life after some struggles with our non-monogamous status. Still struggling to be honest with people and family about our status as we are afraid of backlash and so find it hard to make friends.]
Been thinking about joining a site like this for a while, I have poly friends but they are single and busy and extroverts who are very creative. I am married (5 years) very busy with our kid and work etc. And i am creative in a much more introverted way. So the two lifestyles don't mix that often.
I would like to be able to chat openly to people and thats just not happening IRL and so if there is people to talk to on the internet, thats great .
We are a nice family, we are anarchists and have raised our son with more freedom of thought that some of his peers.
He has grown up not knowing any different than non-monogamy and I dont think he can remember a time where my boyfriend(2yrs) wasn't in my life.
We have had our ups and downs as a family, I have always been non-monogamous and my husband is more for ethical and political reasons.
We have always had an open marriage but we didnt see anyone else until we had been married a while and got our life together! It was still hard and I handled it the wrong way, but now we are in a great place and have been for a while.
My boyfriend also has been up and down due to myself, and handling these things just so wrong. He was away for a while for work, he has been back for a little while and we seem to be stronger than ever. So its all great, went a bit squiffy .. but its great.
It went wrong because i had major issues about who I was and how wrong I was and just how much I hated myself for HAVING to have 2 partners was absurd. I hated that I would crave these things that were seen as abnormal. Alongside some mental health issues. So not a great time for me , but I have come out the other side , almost (i still have my days) and my partners have stuck by me all through this and i couldn't be more grateful.
2 of our friends know that I am non-monogamous and my sisters.
Not a lot of people right? Its really hard to make friends too, like school moms or stuff, like hey, come be my friend - Your husband can be friend with both my partners!! Lol, or whatever, it is just hard.
I hate it, when we go out as a family i have to choose who to kiss or hold hand with .. its bloody terrible and it does cause some jealousy from my husband, as he says
"you always get to have someone when we're out, its fine for you!" -
its a kind jealousy and something we have agreed has to happen to protect ourselves and our son. But I wish we could tell our families , my husband says not right now, but I dont like having to backtrack and make timelines seem possible.. arrh and what if our families say like "you cant have 2 girlfriends!!" how will that make my boy feel? Like we are freaks... But i totally understand why - at first his family will think this
"MRS is obviously MADE him do this, shes so controlling and terrible
MR is such a pushover and he deserves better than this, this isn't a marriage!" - no joke or anything, I mean they would get over it and be welcoming in the end but until my husband can get the courage and overcome this first hurdle we cant go anywhere, he is afraid for my reputation and his own.
We call it "old-school closeted" Coz like everyone gets to come out now days except us. I want to be married to my BF and spend the rest of my life with my two husbands and shout it out to everyone but its actually ILLEGAL!!!
The only joy i have is my "open relationship" status on FB and my instagram with pics of them both. This is my first steps of my public coming out! Its on the internet but its there for everyone to see!!
Well thats me Happy, in love but in need of some friends and a rant X
[TLDR;Happy marriage, happy partner, happy life after some struggles with our non-monogamous status. Still struggling to be honest with people and family about our status as we are afraid of backlash and so find it hard to make friends.]
Been thinking about joining a site like this for a while, I have poly friends but they are single and busy and extroverts who are very creative. I am married (5 years) very busy with our kid and work etc. And i am creative in a much more introverted way. So the two lifestyles don't mix that often.
I would like to be able to chat openly to people and thats just not happening IRL and so if there is people to talk to on the internet, thats great
.We are a nice family, we are anarchists and have raised our son with more freedom of thought that some of his peers.
He has grown up not knowing any different than non-monogamy and I dont think he can remember a time where my boyfriend(2yrs) wasn't in my life.
We have had our ups and downs as a family, I have always been non-monogamous and my husband is more for ethical and political reasons.
We have always had an open marriage but we didnt see anyone else until we had been married a while and got our life together! It was still hard and I handled it the wrong way, but now we are in a great place and have been for a while.
My boyfriend also has been up and down due to myself, and handling these things just so wrong. He was away for a while for work, he has been back for a little while and we seem to be stronger than ever. So its all great, went a bit squiffy .. but its great.
It went wrong because i had major issues about who I was and how wrong I was and just how much I hated myself for HAVING to have 2 partners was absurd. I hated that I would crave these things that were seen as abnormal. Alongside some mental health issues. So not a great time for me , but I have come out the other side , almost (i still have my days) and my partners have stuck by me all through this and i couldn't be more grateful.
2 of our friends know that I am non-monogamous and my sisters.
Not a lot of people right? Its really hard to make friends too, like school moms or stuff, like hey, come be my friend - Your husband can be friend with both my partners!! Lol, or whatever, it is just hard.
I hate it, when we go out as a family i have to choose who to kiss or hold hand with .. its bloody terrible and it does cause some jealousy from my husband, as he says
"you always get to have someone when we're out, its fine for you!" -
its a kind jealousy and something we have agreed has to happen to protect ourselves and our son. But I wish we could tell our families , my husband says not right now, but I dont like having to backtrack and make timelines seem possible.. arrh and what if our families say like "you cant have 2 girlfriends!!" how will that make my boy feel? Like we are freaks... But i totally understand why - at first his family will think this
"MRS is obviously MADE him do this, shes so controlling and terrible
MR is such a pushover and he deserves better than this, this isn't a marriage!" - no joke or anything, I mean they would get over it and be welcoming in the end but until my husband can get the courage and overcome this first hurdle we cant go anywhere, he is afraid for my reputation and his own.
We call it "old-school closeted" Coz like everyone gets to come out now days except us. I want to be married to my BF and spend the rest of my life with my two husbands and shout it out to everyone but its actually ILLEGAL!!!
The only joy i have is my "open relationship" status on FB and my instagram with pics of them both. This is my first steps of my public coming out! Its on the internet but its there for everyone to see!!
Well thats me
Happy, in love but in need of some friends and a rant X
