Poly couple reading text messages

Theoretically, all of my texts and emails are open for either of my guys to read, and they allow me the same opportunity. In the real world though, ain't nobody got time for that! I have never read through either of their email accounts and I've only scrolled through text messages on their phone if they're busy and ask me to respond to something or look for something. Never have I demanded to read anything. I can't remember either of them asking to read what I have written.

I guess we just trust each other. Also, they both know I'm in a romantic relationship with the other - I don't think they are interested in reading what that entails. Lol

I have shown them messages that the other sends from time to time. Like, squeeeee! Look at this adorable baby sloth pic PunkRock sent me! Isn't it the cutest! I do NOT say look at this super hot penis pic DarkKnight sent me! Though they both theoretically could go through and look at all the sexting, it just doesn't happen, and so they never censor themselves.
 
Ditto Bluebird's situation. Chops has made it clear that his phone isn't protected, but that we may not like what we see if we go poking around. We know about his relationships, I don't feel the need to go spelunking, and he doesn't feel the need to hide anything. Heck, he backs up his photos on my NAS (network drive), and has warned me that I may not want to go poking through ALL the photos... again, who has time for that anyway?! I can't even get through all my vacation photos in order to find ones I want to print. :p
 
I've met a couple where the husband does this to his wife. When I was told it did make me feel a little uneasy chatting with her. There had been some trust lost in the past due to a one-off cheating incident. Personal text reading was mandatory and each conversation had to be declared by the wife so the husband could read it back to himself.

I've been told this is actually working and things are getting better all round. I don't like the idea of this happening in general but as a trust building exercise I guess it does make some sense.
 
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