Poly problem #1

[Nadya]

I think I am doing a good job with this. Like I said, six weeks ago, I knew next to nothing about polyamory. It is a difficult topic to research though, and I feel that there is not much out there for someone who is coming into polyamory from the perspective of a second. I do have More Than Two, The Ethical Slut, and Sex at Dawn. This forum has definitely been the best resource though, both for the archives and the ability to post questions. I do feel good with my instincts. From your responses, I seem to be asking the right questions.

Yes, I agree that you seem to be doing a good job at this. I have read More Than Two, both the book and a lot from their website, and started on The Ethical Slut. Still, I feel that the best source of information for me has been this forum. I have been reading here a lot - all kinds of threads, even those ones that appear not to have anything to do with my situation. So, based on that: don't limit yourself in reading about secondaries and hierarchical poly. Read all kinds of different threads - I bet it is useful for you. This might be something you are already doing, but just want to point this out to you.

You seem to be doing pretty well in this new situation. Keep up the good spirit and live your own life!

And, D/s relationships can be very fulfilling and interesting. Definitely start looking into them as you seem to be interested.

 

[missmindful]

I have been reading here a lot - all kinds of threads, even those ones that appear not to have anything to do with my situation. So, based on that: don't limit yourself in reading about secondaries and hierarchical poly. Read all kinds of different threads - I bet it is useful for you. This might be something you are already doing, but just want to point this out to you.

Yes, I have also been finding this forum to be the best resource as well. Thank you for this advice. I do tend to find myself getting caught up in all sorts of threads. Unfortunately, I find the topic so interesting that my reading has distracted me from other responsibilities!

And, D/s relationships can be very fulfilling and interesting. Definitely start looking into them as you seem to be interested.
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The Professor and I seem to have fallen naturally into a d/s relationship. I have been trying to find more information on d/s relationships, but all I am finding is full on BDSM stuff. I have read a bit of the Loving Dominant online. Does anyone know of any good books or websites that are more about the d/s relationship and less master/slave?

 

[Kaycee]

Power Circuits by Raven Caldera is an excellent read.
Every dynamic is unique to the couple.