YesThisIsDog242
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I love discussions on here, and thought I'd make another thread on a polyamory topic:
It's interesting how different social topics can intertwine. I know I've read several informative discussions on here about how hetero/mono-normative relationship dynamics tend to be heavily intertwined with gender-based norms. (shoutout to Magdlyn)
So I'm curious:
Has your experience with polyamory given you more opportunities to question gender roles? Have there been times where you've experienced it reinforcing traditional gender norms?
I don't have much experience yet with polyamory, but still have some personal experience with gender norms:
Even in queer relationships, it can be easy to mimic heteronormative roles, and it tends to be more based off of who fits that mold more. I tend to be someone who highly values emotionally vulnerable conversations, and I think that led to me often initiating the more difficult conversations about relationship concerns. I also tended to be more sensitive to messy spaces, and did house chores more often. On the flip side, he was a much better cook. Things such as employment and mental health also tended to be major factors in how much we contributed to these tasks at different times.
After I left my parents place at 18, I remember there being a noticeable shift with cooking. My mom was the main cook when I was growing up, but my dad developed a strong interest in it around the time I left for college. I learned recently that my mom hated cooking the whole time :') They've been nice models for me in challenging the conventional roles, but I still notice that my mom tends to be deemed the "nagging one".
It's interesting how different social topics can intertwine. I know I've read several informative discussions on here about how hetero/mono-normative relationship dynamics tend to be heavily intertwined with gender-based norms. (shoutout to Magdlyn)
So I'm curious:
Has your experience with polyamory given you more opportunities to question gender roles? Have there been times where you've experienced it reinforcing traditional gender norms?
I don't have much experience yet with polyamory, but still have some personal experience with gender norms:
Even in queer relationships, it can be easy to mimic heteronormative roles, and it tends to be more based off of who fits that mold more. I tend to be someone who highly values emotionally vulnerable conversations, and I think that led to me often initiating the more difficult conversations about relationship concerns. I also tended to be more sensitive to messy spaces, and did house chores more often. On the flip side, he was a much better cook. Things such as employment and mental health also tended to be major factors in how much we contributed to these tasks at different times.
After I left my parents place at 18, I remember there being a noticeable shift with cooking. My mom was the main cook when I was growing up, but my dad developed a strong interest in it around the time I left for college. I learned recently that my mom hated cooking the whole time :') They've been nice models for me in challenging the conventional roles, but I still notice that my mom tends to be deemed the "nagging one".
